- 6 years ago
So, after going away for our 6 year anniversary, I had prayed THIS was the time. Once vacation came to an end an there was still no ring, I have become the most depressed over this. I don’t know how to cope with it anymore. I’m 26 years old, and terrified of the issues I am going to have when we finally try for a baby. Have any of you given ultimatums? How did that wOrk out? I’m on the fence of giving him until the end of June to decide if he wants to marry me. IF he wants to, then I want to give him until December 31st to propose. I know I am sounding a tad selfish, but after waiting for 6 years, I now think he’s being the selfish one. We have this conversation once a year when I have a not engaged meltdown. The las time I had this melt down was when my mother got remarried in 2011, after dating dude for less than a year. My boyfriends new response to not getting engaged is not having money for a ring. I can’t seem to accept that as a valid excuse because he’s had several years to plan for this. He saw how depressed I was when mom got married, so he’s had a year since then to save. What to do?! Any and all advice is appreciated!