I am 23 years old ( 24 in January), and he is 25 years old (26 in February). He has a good job, and graduated from UT Austin in December of 2008. I am attending school still. I have a few liberal arts requirements to complete, then I will start my education foundations courses in March, do my preclinical experiences next fall, student teaching next January, and graduate in July of 2014.
I have set up a reasonable timeline for us. Ring shopping- either next summer or the summer after graduation (we’ll see where my schoolwork load is), Engaged withien a year after graduation (this way I can both- pay off my student loans, and begin saving for our wedding during my first year of teaching), and getting married during either the summer between my first year teaching and my second year, or during the winter of my second year
He has said that, “being married won’t change our relationship dynamics, how I feel about you, or how committed I am to you.” He has said that he loves me, is committed to me forever, and wants to have a life togeather. I love him too, and I want the same thing. I am willing to wait-it out until my second year of teaching, before I tell me that we need to either: go ring shopping, go to counseling, or talk about other (undesireable) options.
Hesi very logically-minded and wants to ensure that we have our debts payed off (school-related), careers that we desire started (he is ahead of me on that one), and some of our dreams realized before we begin a family. I can’t fault him for that. Before I met him, I thought the eact same way! It is difficult to reconcile what I know is the responsible thing to do, and the emotional “I want to show the world that we are committed and in love” thing to do. We live togeather (I moved here last year), we have a cat togeather, and he and I have a great life togeather. I want us to have a happy marriage too. If that means waiting a little longer, then I should. Emphasis on that “little” longer! I would like to get married in our mid-twenties, so that we have time to have the three children that we want.
I have a medical issue that may make getting pregnant difficult (TMI…I know, sorry).