Post # 1
Hey Ladies! I have a scenario for you! Please answer nicely! This is just a thought that I came up with.
Our wedding we will be providing an open bar, transportation to and from hotel, and food obviously. So basically our guests will only have to spend money on the hotel and gift if they would like.
We are incorporating a couple hockey ideas into our wedding. I just came up with the idea to do a 50/50 raffle draw (As it is common at hockey games) and having the half of the proceeds go to a winner and the other half go to Transplant Services in memory of my mother. I am thinking about announcing this to our guests and we would either double or triple the proceeds to charity. I just think this would be a fun thing for guests to participate in if they would like and also a great way to raise money for Transplant awareness.
If you were a guest at my wedding how would this make you feel?
Post # 3
Nope, absolutely not. It’s really not cool to expect your guests to have to open their wallets, and it’s not cool to put them on the spot like that.
If you want to do a charity donation and raise transport awareness, why not put something on your wedding website like “In lieu of gifts, missHockey and MrHockey would welcome a donation to Transplant Services in MissHockey’s mother’s memory” with a link to the charity’s website? That will raise awareness plus give the guests an option over participating or not, which they can decide in private without the social pressure of someone hawking raffle tickets.
Post # 4
@Horseradish: Oh Don’t worry i was planning on doing this as well. Thank you for the suggestion though.
Post # 5
Not a fan. I’ve seen the idea of donations “in lieu of favors,” on the bee. I’d be more comfortable with that as a guest.
Post # 6
Raffels at a wedding seems complete odd to me. Not because your asking your guests to open their wallets (I’m actaully not as violently oposed to it as a lot of people will be) but because it’s more carnival than wedding.
I think an “In Leiu of gifts” or on your program you can put “In loving memory of the dearly departed Mom Hockey, we have made a donation our guests name to chairty. For more information visit (website)”
Post # 7
Lol alright ladies! I guess it was a bad idea! Thank you for all of your responses! I will just stick to the in leui of gifts and will donate instead of favors.
Post # 8
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Ok first off, I have to say as a Canadian, and a Hockey Lover that I GET how this idea might have been hatched for a Hockey Themed Wedding…
And as admirable as your choice of Charity is (memory of your Mom… which also makes sense wanting to Honour her at your Wedding)
I am GLAD to see that you`ve followed the advice from the other Bees who have commented so far.
Fundraising & Weddings just don`t mix.
Hope this helps,
PS… Nothing wrong tho with your fore-going the often-seen Wedding Favours for a Charitable Donation instead and informing your Guests that you made that choice (money you would have spent in one way, you have chosen to spend in another way). In your shoes that is probably what I`d do
PPS… Looking forward to eventually seeing the Recap Photos from your Wedding. Hockey themed Weddings can be great fun !!
Post # 9
@This Time Round: thank you for your response!! unfortunately it isn’t until 2015.. but I will definately put lots of pictures up as I go with planning and such! Very excited to do all the little things!
Post # 10
@MissHockey: I think a better option would be to offer a donation in lieu of a favor. I work at a cancer hospital and we will send couples cute cards to give their guests letting them know. A raffle feels like a fundraiser!
Post # 11
I once went to a wedding where the DJ announced that in lieu of the “dollar-dance” the couple was going to do a “dollar-dash” with all proceeds goign to a charity (I don’t remember which one). Basically they both put on tennis shoes and went to the dance floor. Then the DJ played a song and people would hold up money (I think mostly just $1) and they both raced all over the reception trying to get more money than the other. Some people would only give the money to one or the other. It was actually pretty funny to watch and it didn’t last long. I thought it was fun and for a good cause, so I really liked it. My grandmother would not have liked it. You can’t pelase everyone. But if you think your friends and family would go for it then I say give it a try! Who’s going to get mad at you for donating to charity? Just make sure it isn’t a thing where people feel pressured. Maybe just have it set up on a table off to the side with a sign and then announce the drawing later in the evening.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t be offended by it, but I would think that it’s an odd thing to have at a wedding. We are planning on doing something different instead of clinking glasses to make is kiss though (maybe you could do something like this) – we will have a donation jar for the Canadian Cancer foundation that people will have to make a donation to in order I make us kiss. We each know many family members that have had/died from cancer so I like the sentiment behind it. And it avoids that annoying glass clinking!