5th anniversary party or not?

posted 1 year ago in Entertainment
  • poll: is a 5th anniversary party (after hosting parties every year) tacky?
    Yes, you're an attention seeking wedding whore. : (16 votes)
    64 %
    No, youve been hosting a party every year, its a nice twist to you're usual boring "backyard bash". : (5 votes)
    20 %
    Who the hell cares? high class problems (insert eye roll) : (4 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 2
    2232 posts
    Buzzing bee

    sarahb1371 :  just tell them they’re invited to your annual cookout. I think it’d be weird if you follow your BIL’s advice and tell people it’s for your 5th wedding anniversary. I also don’t see why anyone would think gifts were required for such a laid-back event. 


    If anythjng, just send it out on super casual stationery OR via text or email. I vouch for using electronic communication, because that makes it even more informal. Again, stating you don’t want gifts for a bbq would be weird, as no one should assume gifts are necessary for a bbq. If they do, I need those types of friends lol


    on another note though, it’s so cool of you guys to host all your wedding guests each year for a bbq. It sounds like loads of fun!

    Post # 3
    4506 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldn’t call it an anniversary party, because it makes it all about you (I know that’s not your intention). Just keep throwing your backyard bash. If you want to, you and your hubby can absolutely stand up and make a toast, including mentioning your anniversary. I just wouldn’t make a big point of that on the invitation. 

    Post # 4
    3333 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    Just keep your regular event. If you want you can start calling it the 4th annual backyard bash.

    Post # 5
    47197 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would keep the invitations the same. If people have not made the connection to your wedding date themselves, after 4 years, it might look like you were reminding them, no matter how you phrase it.

    I do think however it is fine for you to mention your anniversary at the party in a short thank-you to your guests for coming. Doing it then, not in the invitation, avoids it looking like you are, in fact, asking for gifts.

    “The gift of your presence is all we ask” should never be added to invitations. It gives the impression that, without your permission, your guests should have been thinking about buying a gift.

    Post # 7
    11963 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Self celebratory parties aren’t endorsed by etiquette, and certainly not yearly anniversary celebrations in your own honor. In fact, traditionally, more than three milestone events involving the same guest list in an entire lifetime is considered distasteful! LOL. 

    As mentioned, the way to get around that is to make no mention at all about your anniversary on the invitations and then perhaps have a brief surprise toast in the moment. Personally, I wouldn’t even do that. 

    There should be no mention of gifts no matter where you live. Just because a lot of people do the wrong thing doesn’t mean you have to. If you go on calling it a yearly barbecue, no one can think of it as a gift grab. That’s really the best way to make it about your guests.

    Post # 8
    362 posts
    Helper bee

    I agree with not mentioning the anniversary on the invites. If I received an invite that mentioned anniversary party, I’d be wondering if I have to bring a gift and would feel guilty coming with nothing. If it was an invite to the normal yearly BBQ then I’d just bring some type of food or drink like I normally would. I think a speech thanking everyone and bringing up the anniversary would be ok though. 

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