Post # 1
5th unsuccessful month ttc ( came on today) and starting to feel it will never happen 🙁
tbh we we didn’t want kids (or marriage.. Then he proposed to me on Christmas Day!!), but my 33rd birthday my body just said ok I want this NOW!! Since then we’ve charted, watched cm and temps, and used preeseed, all to no avail. This month we very deliberately ‘relaxed’ and didn’t try.
Is is it our age?
Post # 3
I hope it isnt your age… because I am 33 too! We just started this cycle and I am in the TWW but starting to think it will be a no for me.
I posted this on another thread but EVERYone I know is in there early to late 30’s and 90% have gotten pregnant fairly quickly. My sister-in-law took 7 months which is still considered pretty average.
I would give it one more month relaxed and then start looking into Dr.’s etc. But what do I know…. I am just starting and this is WAY more stresful than I thought it would be. 🙂
All the best.
Post # 4
i hope not. many women have successful pregnancies after that age.
i am 32 and am on cycle 3.
give your gyn a call if you have concerns.
Post # 5
Don’t give up hope! I know how you feel. I’m 35 and my DH and I are on our 7th cycle. It’s a roller coaster, for sure…but don’t give up hope. The more time I spend reading people’s stories on this site, the more I realize that it’s pretty normal for conception to take several months. For others – even longer.
It’s hard – but it’ll be worth it in the end. Good luck to you and your DH!
Post # 6
I know it’s hard not to get discouraged, and you’re allowed, it’s definitely frustrating. DH and I tried for 4 months, and I am 34, so there’s hope 🙂 I don’t think it’s your age. I think they say the normal range could take up to a year. Were you on the pill?
Post # 7
@sammygal: I just wanted to chime in and say I’m so sorry you’re dealing with the awful stress that is TTC. I am in my 4th cycle right now of trying, and I’m feeling pretty fatigued by it as well. It’s weird, you can go into it knowing that it might take awhile, but still I somehow thought I’d get pregnant right away. It’s frustrating when it doesn’t happen that way.
I don’t know if it’s age-related for you, but like the other bees, I sure hope not! I am turning 32 this year and my DH is 33. It’s getting more and more common for people to wait until their thirties to start trying.
I wish I had some way to help other than commiserating, but I don’t. 🙁 The only thing I can say is just hang in there. It might help to try and focus your energies on other things for awhile. Keep on trying at the same time, but maybe work on a project or start planning a trip to help keep your mind occupied and your spirits up.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
I understand your despair. I’m almost 32 and DH is 38. I was really upset around my 5th cycle too. We’re on our 7th cycle TTC. Personally, I know that I have endometriosis so it wasn’t unexpected, but it is still very discouraging. I’ve charted and used OPK’s, so I know I’m ovulating and timing things correctly, but no luck. Why am I in the 20% of folks with Endo who have issues TTC? So frustrating! Just know that you’re not alone- not everyone gets knocked up as soon as someone looks at them:)
Post # 9
Thank you all. I wasn’t on any contraception, only condoms. My cycle tends to be between 28 – 33 days and judging from cm and mid cycle pains I’m fairly sure I’ve ovulated each month. The thing is, we’re planning a June 2015 wedding followed by honeymoon. If I were younger I’d definitely hold off ttc until after the honeymoon to avoid problems, sickness, not being fit to travel etc, and mainly so I can enjoy my pregnancy and not stress about a wedding. However, if we do this I’ll then be 35! Ideally I’d like to fall pregnant before April 2014, then I’ll have a good 4 months or so to get back in shape and bubba will be ok to move around a bit more. Ugh… The lack of control over it all is the worst part!!
I do have quite a few friends and family who got pg after 30 (after 40 in 2 cases!), so I try to bear that in mind.
What would you all do about the ttc before or after wedding decision? Xx