@BRbee: Thanks for your reply, no according to her they have not checked. Because I specifically asked, after her first cycle, “So did they confirm you ovulated?” and she said “No that’s what clomid does, it makes you ovulate.” (and in my mind and jumping up and down and saying no, no it doesn’t not always what’s wrong with this picture and this Dr.) She does not seem concerned about her doc, she seems to take everything he says as the gospel and I’m feeling frustrated for her, I feel like she is wasting her time and money dealing with him. =/ Good luck btw =]
@MrsStrawberry24: Thanks for your reply. She’s seeing an OB. Thanks for the prayers I so want this to work out for her, my heart just breaks for her and I hate to see someone I love going through something that is so painful. Next time we talk I am going to try to gently suggest she get a second opinion. Congratulations on your LO!!!
@Yellow.Clover: Thanks for your reply. I’ve never even heard her mention IUI it’s literally like the dr. has said clomid or IVF and I just don’t buy that, and from the replies I see I wasn’t mistaken. =/ It’s so frustrating. I know from the last time we spoke she seemed like after the last round of clomid she was going to give up bc they aren’t prepared to attempt IVF at this point. Next time we talk she will be off the clomid I am going to suggest she get a second opinion.
@rosworms: Thanks for your reply, no according to what she has said to me, no they have not monitored her at all..Because I specifically asked, after her first cycle, “So did they confirm you ovulated?” and she said “No that’s what clomid does, it makes you ovulate.” (and in my mind and jumping up and down and saying no, no it doesn’t not always what’s wrong with this picture and this Dr.) I just feel like it’s not my place to say no I think this is wrong, there are other options, I feel bad saying that bc she’s the one going through this I’m actually pregnant and I feel like saying no this isn’t right there are other ways isn’t going to be taken well if that makes sense, I could be wrong but it’s a delicate topic and I don’t want to hurt her, or come off like I think some sort of know it all. =/ Yes she’s my best friend and I love her to death but I know this is a touchy emotional subject and I just don’t know how to say you have other options please don’t let this quack make you feel defeated. Good luck btw =]
Thanks for all the replies ladies, please keep my friend in your thoughts and prayers. I truly believe she can do this, she a chemical pregnancy before she even started to clomid so I just know in my heart this can happen for her and I don’t want this dr. to make her believe it can’t without something so drastic as IVF. Sigh…
If anyone has any good suggestions on how to approach this topic with her especially if you are ttc and were in her shoes, and remember this will be coming from someone who is expecting without any ttc methods. I know that’s got to make it 10xs worse to hear…bc I didn’t have to struggle to get pregnant and then trying to tell her what she should do…ugh it just feels so wrong. So any suggestions on this matter I’m open to.
Thanks Bees =]