- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Fiance and I have been both feeling a bit blah about the wedding in July. Mainly, we will have been engaged for 1.6 years at that point, and would have to start our savings over again after paying for the wedding.
Basically, we moved in with his rents so we could bank a nice amount of money every month. We are doing great, but the issue is that after the wedding, we would have to stay at his rents for almost 2 more years until we could even consider house hunting. While I know we are in a golden opportunity here, we want a home! We have seen so many beautiful houses we would love pass us by, only to feel held back by the towering expense of our wedding.
Luckily, we have only spent only 3k of the budget so far, and nothing has been 100% paid for. We discussed some things and decided that we would rather be married sooner and have a home much sooner rather than waiting 6 months to be married, and than another 1-2 years to start looking for a home. We are 23 and 25, and seeing family members our age getting homes and starting families is hard on us. We are ready for a family, but want a home first.
So my question is, how should we tell people we changed our minds about how the wedding will go? No one has picked out their tuxes of bridesmaids dresses yet, and the honeymoon we wanted hasnt been booked. We dont really like that our wedding list is growing and grown (its passed 150 now!) and prefer a quiet intimate ceremony. How do we tell people we changed our minds with 6 months left?
(I would also like to add, my family lives about 70 miles away, and I havent even seen my maid of honor in months. Not much is done with the wedding at all, so we wouldnt be missing out on much. Besides, we plan on doing a vow renewel on our 5 year anniversary. The end result of marriage is what we aim for, not the show.)
How would you go about announcing this, and what would you do in our shoes?