(Closed) 6+ Months TTC Thread – Part 34

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Post # 241
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

jetsetbee:  I hope your morning went well and you have results soon!

hogoboom2012:  I would say you probably ovulated and that was your spike, but only time will tell. Give it another day and if your temp is high, you most likely did and just had a long surge!

Just got back from our appointment and it went pretty much as I expected. My obgyn said that she doesn’t like to say “infertility” because it has a negative connotation. She said we are “sub fertile” (lol) and since there is no “smoking gun” with myself or my husband – we are thrown into the unknown category and basically need to see a specialist. There isnt much more she can do for us since we dont have an underlying problem. I am ok with it, I guess, because at least we are moving in the right direction. I’m bummed because the RE my friend just used has a 70% success rate and is apparently moving to Montana. Seriously, the fertility God’s hate me.

Post # 242
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

mkat37:  I saw this same thing last night about the Duggars. They all seem to get KUed within a few months of their wedding. I would love to see just one of them struggle with infertility and see how they family handles it.

 

Post # 243
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

vanike:  That’s good about the no spotting. I usually spot 3-5 days before AF, so I would love that!

Post # 244
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

jammer62:  I was thinking the same thing last night after reading these comments. I bet they think they “struggle” when they dont have a honeymoon baby.

Post # 245
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Busy bee

Wow. I am in shock. And so sad. My test went fine – she said based on my ovaries and the follicles, she expect that my bloodwork will all come back normal or close to normal and that I may have mild endo causing the painful periods but nothing seemed worrisome about the ultrasound. But Darling Husband had his SA on Monday so she had the results for me, and they were very bad. Motility still a bit low, after months of supplements, but the real problem was the strict morphology (Kruger). I’m still trying to wrap my head around this and find it quite confusing, but it was less than 1% normal. We’re still waiting to get my HSG before we decide where to go next, and she said we’re welcome to try IUI, but she doubts it would be very successful.

I’m heartbroken. And I was so in shock that I walked out to my car and called my Darling Husband, who was on lunch break, and told him, and now I’m so mad at myself for doing that because he’s devastated and upset and is in the middle of trial. I just wasn’t even thinking. 

Really don’t know what to do with this news. And I have a time sensitive project to finish for work and I just want to get really drunk and cry a lot. 

Post # 246
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

jetsetbee:  oh lady I am so, so sorry to hear this. I can imagine you are in a lot of pain and figuring out the next steps won’t be easy. I’m here for you and if we were in the same city I would be taking you out for those drinks! Sending lots of love your way. Is ivf a viable option?

Post # 247
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

BeverlyGeese:  Sorry to hear about your appointment.  I wish you could have gotten more answers, but I hope you are able to get some kind of game plan from an RE.  

jetsetbee:  I don’t know what to say except I am sorry that this is happening to you.  It is so incredably unfair.  Sending huge hugs.  

Post # 248
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hi all….super lurker here!  I was on the TTC boards a lot last summer when this was all fresh then I realized that I need to obsess less and took a back seat for WB (also work kicked into high gear and I have less free time! haha).  I still read a decent amount – but stopped roll calling so that I didn’t get obsessive.

I just wanted to pop in here and say that I am at the very tail end of my 12th cycle (CD1 was supposed to be today – maybe tomorrow – POAS with FMU was whiter than white – so I know AF is on its way….) and had an appointment with an RE today and it was *THE* best doctor’s appointment I have ever had.  She completely validated my feelings and admitted that it was weird with my stats and my husband’s stats that we weren’t pregnant yet.  She was all about taking the next steps and moving us closer to our BFP.  I like my OB – but she was of the camp – just keep trying, it’s normal – no big deal…… The RE is ready to move forward  (IUI in two cycles is the current plan) and I am so excited.

 

I just thought I would share this experience because I was a little hesitant that it was going to be the same old “relax and have lots of sex” talk.

 

Also as a side note – I saw the SA discussion the past couple days — anyone who is at the beginning of the 6+ month go get it done – easy test and totally worth finding out before you go nuts with your own body!

 

Anyway – wishing lots of happy to all of the ladies on this board.  I continue to enjoy reading about your process and how it makes me feel “normal”.  Hoping to see some more BFPs on here 🙂

Post # 249
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

 

BeverlyGeese:  Sub fertile.  I like it! Sounds more promising. Hopefully the RE will be able to run some additional tests and find an answer for you. That sucks about the RE moving.  I was doing some research on REs here and there is only once clinic in the whole province (at least it’s only 5 blocks from my house!).  Apparently the highest rated RE moved away but will be back in 2 years.  I was bummed to read that and I better not still be in this mess when he returns!

jetsetbee:  My heart absolutely dropped when I read your update.  I am so, so, so sorry.  Bev is right….this is a case where I wish we all lived in the same city because internet hugs just don’t seem adequate right now.  Is there any chance there was an error with the test?  Has he had problems with his morphology before?  It seems odd that there would be such a big problem if he hadn’t shown any issues in that area before (although I could be wrong…I’m not an SA expert).

Post # 250
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Busy bee

BeverlyGeese: auggiefrog:  Thank you ladies so much! Seriously, you’re all the best, and it means so much to have somewhere to turn in all this. I wish we could all be out having drinks! It’s so hard because I know Darling Husband feels responsible. He told me on the phone that he’s been the cause of all of this stress, and that just kills me that he feels that way. Obviously I don’t blame him! But I know he blames himself and nothing I say can change that. So seriously, means so much to me to be able to turn to you all to vent and cry! Hugs back to you. 

I think we are going to operate on the assumption that we could find a way to finance IVF, but our problem is student loan debt. Going into more debt was really the last thing we wanted, as all of our extra money goes to paying off the loans. But I had a friend go through it and she told me never to let money be what stops you. It’s tough because we’re super frugal, but I don’t know that we can imagine not trying everything in our power. 

Post # 251
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

jetsetbee:  I can totally relate to the student loan debt (my husband is also an attorney). While it isn’t exactly the best decision, we are paying loans off income based (of course it barely pays for the interest)…but by doing so we are able to save a large chunk of money (basically my salary). Obviously it would be in our best interest to throw all of that towards the loans, but we decided that while income isn’t the highest it will ever be…our overall happiness is more important. We are able to travel a bit, we bought a house, and now if need be, we could finance ivf. I agree with your friend. Sometimes it’s important to strategize and find out what is the most important happiness in your life. My Dr even suggested today that we go home and discuss how far into the journey we are willing to go. both financial and emotionally. She reminded us how important it is to support one another and walk the journey together.

Again, I’m so sorry for your news. Remind your husband that genetics are not in either of your control – and that is what drives the ship of fertility issues. He was born with whafever the cause is and nothing he has done caused it. I will have a glass of wine for you tonight since I can’t take you out!

mkat37:  oh man, I was so surprised to see how small the list of re was. I am sorry you only have one option, but convenient that it’s close!

meadow_jersey:  Thanks for your words of encouragement! I am happy you found some comfort in your re appointment today. Fingers crossed it brings your that baby!

auggiefrog:  Thanks friend! How are you feeling today?

Post # 252
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

BeverlyGeese:  Not so great.  I’m home with a stomach bug.  Life is pretty boring here in bed!  I really need to get out, I don’t know how much more web surfing I can do.  I finally had some yogurt after feeling like I was so hungry that I would pass out.  Now lets see if it stays down.  

Post # 253
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

auggiefrog:  oh gosh I was hoping you would be feeling better!! I hope this doesn’t ruin your bd chances tonight.

Post # 254
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

jetsetbee:  I’m so very sorry. I hope that once the feelings have settled that you two can work out a plan that works for you. I wish we lived close by, as I’d gladly get drunk with you.

Post # 255
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

BeverlyGeese:  My husband is an attorney too! He owns his own practice, so his income is never really stable and never particularly high. It’s interesting, we have a different outlook Re: loans but I think I kinda like your outlook better.

Right now, we are surviving solely off my income, which is woefully low considering I have a doctorate (but hey, it’s way better than $0). All of his income (which is less than mine) goes straight to his loan. So in the last year or so we were able to knock out $40k, and at this rate we’ll have it paid off in another year and a half. I can’t wait until we get to keep his money in the bank account!

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