- 11 months ago
- Wedding: January 2019
My situation is a bit unique and I’m stressing so much. I thought someone here could give me some insight…? Please…
I brought over my foreign fiance from india on a fiancé visa. We have 90 days to marry after he arrives, or he must go back to his country. We’ve known each other 10 years and I’ve visited him 5 times in India over the years and 2 additional times in Dubai. He couldnt get a visa to usa (its quite difficult). Everytime we visited him its been amazing and he’s great, know me loves me to bits.
We drifted apart from 2012 to 2016, but kept in touch. Just not constantly on chat and phone. More like messages here and there. We got close again beginning 2017 and have been since. We worked hard and paid a good amount to get the fiancé visa to get him here, as well as it taking over a year to get approved.
He then quit his job, gave up his apartment, gave up his work visa, left everything to come here to marry me.
He arrived mid November.
And everything has been a bit weird (at least my feelings) he’s never been to USA and doesn’t really know how to do anything here, from cooking on electric, to laundry, to driving. He’s never not worked, and legally cannot until after we are married and apply for a work permit for him. Its beyond stressful and im now doubting if this marriage should happen?
He’s 34 and never married or had any previous relationships. Ive had one and have a 14 yr old child. I do not want to be divorced again and I’m so terrified on making the wrong choice. How do you know?? Am I just having cold feet?
I feel like we just need more time to adjust, but we don’t have more time… the click keeps ticking. He’s not pressuring me at all, I told him how im feeling and he’s not sure how to help me. He said “its always been me for him”… and he has zero doubts, but i need to make sure, becuz he also doesn’t want to be divorced either (totally agree and get that!)
Now I feel incredibly guilty and selfish and just lost… any advice? Is this normal?? Do I proceed with the wedding and assume the adjustment time will help? Anyone else in this situation?
Thanks in advance!