- 8 years ago
I have told myself time and time again that I wasn’t going to be “waiting” anymore and that I was just going to let things run it’s course, but I just can’t help but get so depressed about not even being engaged yet…..
My story (as short as I can make it):
I am 23 and SO is 25. We’ve been together for 6 years. We have NEVER lived together. We both still live at home. He is working full time making good money and I am working part time and am in nursing school right now. We live about 30 minutes away from each other and for these past 6 years I have always stayed over his house on the weekends.
He plans on buying a house sometime this year, although I don’t see it actually happening until next year, if that. He has always said he wants to get engaged/married after we live together because he thinks peoples relationships may change after they live together and he wants to make sure I will be able to handle living with him and that I wont get sick of being around him 24/7 since I am used to seeing him on the weekends and since I like my “alone time” (crazy I know…)
This entire idea really really upsets me for a few reasons. 1) The fact that after 6 years he thinks I will get sick of him if we live together and spend too much time together. 2.) We probably aren’t getting a house anytime soon. 3.) Even by the time we do get a house, how long will it actually take him to propose?
I’m not getting any younger and the people around me are getting engaged left and right, and although their lives have nothing to do with mine it just reminds me about not being engaged and makes me so upset. I don’t mind waiting until I am done with school (Spring 2015) to get married, but I at least want to get engaged now and I don’t see a reason in waiting.
1.)Am I crazy by wanting to get engaged right now?
2.)Do you think my SO makes any sense by wanting to wait until we actually get a taste of living with eachother before we take it to the next level?