Post # 1
I’m so done with all things wedding. Every day I think, right I’m going to have a wedding free day today (says she’ on weddingbee!) but it doesn’t matter how hard I try either a vendor will email/call me, a bridesmaid will pester me about the dresses they haven’t got yet/Mother will nag me about what time we have to get there again?/Work colleagues will ask general questions/Fi will not have sorted the remaining invites out and it’s just stripped every inch of excitement out of me and I’m scared that I’m not going to get that back 🙁
I really thought I’d enjoy wedding planning but it turns out I’m not as wedding obessessed as I thought I’d be. There are endless little things I could do to make the day “better” DIY projects galore but I just don’t care about bubbles and butterfly cards and even guestbooks etc. I feel like the bad bride.
Don’t get me wrong I’m IN LOVE with the man I’ll soon call my husband and I don’t have a shadow of a doubt that this is the right decision but I’m just so BLAH about the wedding itself. I’ve lost that excited feeling and buzz and it seemed to have come just as everyone else is starting to get exicted about it.
I’m sure this is probably normal but I’m THE MOST optimistic and happy person I know, this feeling goes against the very core of who I am and I’m not loving it!
Any advice? Anyone else with me? Anyone been through and out the other side?
Post # 3
I got to that point and let me tell you, the stress isn’t worth it. I kept begging for just ONE day with no mention of wedding. But everyone would ask questions and my mom would be “Have you done this? Have you done that?”
In the end, you marry the man of your dreams. All the little thing that aren’t perfect enough, you won’t even think about it. The day goes by so fast! Just enjoy every moment you have celebrating with family and friends 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks Lyndzo yes I agree, the little things aren’t going to be the thing I focus on or remember after the day is done. Maybe that’s why I’m beign so laxed when it comes to doing all the little projects….
I do wish I was feeling a bit more spontanious and exicted though, I feel like I’m missing it all by being a grouch!
Post # 5
Yes! I hate diying and if it wasn’t for my fmil and fsil I would have bought everything. Don’t feel pressure to have all these things or behave a certain way that is acceptable for a “bride”. I say trash whatever little projects that you feel won’t add anything to your day and you are doing cause you feel like you have too.
I also think you should take some time out, have a drink with friends, go on a date with your Man and not worry about the wedding. Taking little breaks will leave you refreshed and perhaps more ready to tackle whatever you have left on your list.
Post # 6
TwoCityBride Alot of things I could DIY I don’t need to, the people we are hiring the venue through will also decorate the building with the stuff we have confirmed with them, including centre pieces, drapes, candles etc. I’m just not a very creative person. Actually that’s not true I can be crafty when I want to be but that’s the thing, I just can’t be bothered.
See I told you I’m a bad bride!
Post # 7
@Soon2BeeMrsG: I got to that point – and it does get better!
If no one will let you go for a full day, take at least a night off. Turn off your phone and do whatever you used to like doing with your free time before wedding-mania – for me, it was read a book (not wedding-related, of course).
It does get better and not wanting to work on wedding DIY projects does NOT make you a bad bride!
I’m a recent newlywed and finally my non-wedding-focused self and much less stressed out again… you will be too. I dropped a lot of little details as the day drew closer and it was still absolutely amazing!
Post # 8
i’ve gone through a huge roller coaster of emotions like this, don’t worry.
today i have 11 days left and i feel pretty great.
but if you talked to me a week ago i was ready to elope. or go to my wedding, but as a guest and not the bride.
just truck though, as things get done you’ll start to feel much better!
i just haev to keep reminding myself that i am getting MARRIED to my honey!