Post # 1
I don’t really know what to think – part of me wants to stay optimistic but part of me is terrified of a bad outcome. By my calculations, I should be 7.5 weeks pregnant (I have pretty regular periods). My doctor sent me for a dating ultrasound today. The technician could see anything with an abdominal scan, so she then moved on to a transvaginal. Even then, all she could see was the gestational sac and the yolk sac. She couldn’t give me any results – all she did was point to things on the screen and tell me my doctor would have to be the one to give me the results. She did say I looked like I was about 6 weeks (or even a bit earlier). I don’t see my doctor until Monday.
So now I’ve done some googling and I’ve devastated – terrified that the baby has stopped growing and it’s a missed miscarriage. To add to the stress, I’m getting married on Saturday, then leaving for a week-long honeymoon on Monday after my appointment with the MD.
I guess I’m just looking for advice – ways to put this out of my mind until after the wedding, or stories like mine with a positive ending 🙂
Post # 2
lauroo: think positive. it might just be too early to see anything at all. when I went for my first u/s I thought I was about 7 weeks and it turned out I was only 5 weeks which would explain why they couldn’t see anything on the u/s. I went back in a week for bloodwork to see if my hcG was increasing, and they were, and by the time i went back we were able hear a heartbeat!
I am keeping my fingers crossed for yoU!
Post # 3
Sorry to hear that, I can’t imagine having to wait until Monday! But, you might have just ovulated later than you thought, so there’s still every reason to hope for the best.
P.S. Walk away from the Google — nothing but trouble!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
lauroo: Try not to stress out, it’s honestly most likely the case that you ovulated later than you thought and the baby is just 6 weeks along, not 7.5 like you thought.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - hotel
The odds are in your favour. All the stress of a wedding is bound to delay ovulation. I know its easy to say to try not to worry, but you can’t do anything to alter the outcome. So try to be kind to yourself and keep busy. Pregnancy involves a lot of waiting, the early days are the worst. You’ll get through this, I promise.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone for the encouraging words! I had another mini freak-out when I got some very light brown spotting when I wiped once today, but I’m going to think positive and hope it was just irritation or something from the probe during the u/s. I’m reminding myself that whatever will be, will be, and I need to try to relax and enjoy the wedding. Your kind words really helped!
Post # 7
My cycle was very regular (31-32 days usually), so I expected to be 9w2d at my dating ultrasound. Baby only measured 7w3d. I am 17wks now and things have been progressing well! Just wanted to share my story of ovulating late and baby measuring behind what you expect. Sounds like the same has happened to you! Do you chart and do you know when you ovulated for sure? I wasnt charting so my dating estimation was just from an internet site. Congratulations by the way, on your baby and your marriage!!
Post # 8
jbbird: Thank you for your story! No, I don’t chart (we weren’t actually trying, and this pregnancy was more of a happy surprise) however, I usually know when I ovulate because I get pretty significant ovarian pain the day of. That’s why I’m a bit concerned that the dates appear to be over a week off. I’m just going to keep my fingers crossed – hopefully when I get back from the honeymoon I’ll be able to schedule another u/s (if nothing happens before then). Congratulations on your pregnancy!
Post # 9
Ultrasound is an art…not a science. Don’t stress this. I have had SO many friends go through this. You can have delayed implantation, delayed ovulation. Basically a million different things and a few weeks at this stage is a VERY small difference for the tech to notice. RELAX and STAY off the internet…you will upset yourself unbelievably symptom spotting is the DEVIL.
Post # 10
This sort of happened to me 3 years ago. I went in at 5w6d, no fetal pole, no heartbeat…just a black sac on the transvaginal u/s. Doctor was super banch and tried to scare the crap out of me…oh and my sac was oblong shaped, not round (but to be honest I can’t recall ever seeing a round sac, I thought most were oblong)…she said it looked like a miscarriage (and that the sac will stretch out to get ready to exit the cervix). Told me, in these exact words “you could flip a coin, 50 chance miscarriage 50 chance it sustains”. She also said that since the heart should’ve started beating by then, it didn’t look good. There was zero empathy whatsoever. That was the worst week of my life! Went back at 7w1d, little heart was fluttering away. That sac is now a wild toddler running through the house that just pooped in the bathroom floor lol
Don’t worry. I honestly think they don’t know as much about early pregnancy as what they claim. The u/s tech should’ve known to do a transvaginal to begin with! Think about it–many women don’t even know they’re pregnant that early, and if they do, a lot of doctors won’t see you until 8 weeks. That’s an iffy time too. A lot happens in those first few weeks. I knew exactly when I had ovulated so mine was fairly accurate…but if it’s off by even a couple days you won’t see much. Don’t stress 🙂 STAY AWAY FROM THE INTERNET!!! That amplified everything x100! Just focus on your wedding, everything will be okay!
Post # 11
Im sending positive thoughts for the best outcome for you!
Post # 12
Don’t stress, lady! My first u/s showed only a sac at six weeks. They had me come in a week later and everything was as it should have been. You probably just ovulated late – especially with last minute wedding stress! Hope everything works out.
Post # 13
I went to my first u/s thinking I was 7.5 weeks, and they said I was 6.5 weeks. Plenty of others have had the same thing happen. Sometimes we are just off, but everything is still coming along as it should. If you really are as early as they think I’m sure it’s normal that they saw only the sac at that point. That’s still pretty early. Worrying will not help any (easier said than done).. you need to try to enjoy your wedding for now! It will come and go so fast and you will want to remember it as a positive happy day!
Post # 14
Once again, thank you so much to everyone who replied, you’ve made me feel so much better and hopeful! This is why I love this site 🙂
I’m really excited for the wedding, and I’m just going to focus on that – getting my nails done today with my bridesmaids, then rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. It’s such a happy time, and I’m going to make the most of it!
Post # 15
lauroo: any update? Hope the wedding went well! 🙂