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Member3194 posts
Sugar bee
- TwoStatesBride
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Excellent article. Really speaks to so many things I believe about parenting, and how I plan to parent my children:
(Closed) 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders
posted 7 years ago in ParentingMemberPost # 3
Member9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
- beachbride1216
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I love this article! Thanks for posting.
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Member6014 posts
Bee Keeper
Post # 5
Member3194 posts
Sugar bee
- TwoStatesBride
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
UGH I just can’t get enough of it.
“This “everyone gets a trophy” mentality might make our kids feel special, but research is now indicating this method has unintended consequences. Kids eventually observe that Mom and Dad are the only ones who think they’re awesome when no one else is saying it. They begin to doubt the objectivity of their parents; it feels good in the moment, but it’s not connected to reality. When we rave too easily and disregard poor behavior, children eventually learn to cheat, exaggerate and lie and to avoid difficult reality. They have not been conditioned to face it.” YES. YES YES YES.
Post # 6
Member2684 posts
Sugar bee
- bleusteel
- 7 years ago
Thanks for sharing! The points made in the article are really great. My Fiance and I were actually talking about the first point a few days ago. My parents refused to let me play sports because of the possibility of getting hurt and I think that caused issues with my development. I was chubby, lazy, and I didn’t really work well in teams, and it took years of work to undo those behaviors. FI and I agree that we aren’t making that mistake if we have kids.
Post # 7
Member3194 posts
Sugar bee
- TwoStatesBride
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
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makes so much sense to me.
Post # 8
Member8028 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
- eeniebeans
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I like the article and mostly agree with it, but I worry about the idea that we are holding kids back from being “leaders”. Not all kids (people) are meant to be leaders. Not everyone can lead. I think that the article is great about just parenting in general.
Post # 9
Member709 posts
Busy bee
- Kili
- 7 years ago
@TwoStatesBride: I agree with the author. Very well written.
Post # 10
Member3194 posts
Sugar bee
- TwoStatesBride
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
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Post # 11
Member8028 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
- eeniebeans
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
If that is the intention, then if course that makes sense. we should not bubble wrap them.
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Member5473 posts
Bee Keeper
Post # 13
Member2437 posts
Buzzing bee
Post # 14
Member3339 posts
Sugar bee
- Christy42213
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Overall, I like it. But I’m not sure I agree with #3.
My father is very realistic. I don’t feel like he doesn’t live in reality when it comes to knowing my competencies and limits. He’s my biggest advocate and cheerleader. When I need a pep talk, my dad will be the first one to tell me how smart, beautiful, and capable I am. Sometimes I really need the self-esteem boost to psych me up. It definitely has not caused me to become a liar and a cheater.
#4-6 are gold! Although again, I disagree with not sharing stories regarding addiction. Addiction is a disease, and I think that kids should be educated on it just like they are educated about chicken pox, AIDS, and obesity.
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Member607 posts
Busy bee
Post # 16
Member2268 posts
Buzzing bee
- Mischka
- 7 years ago
I completely agree with this article.
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