- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Bottom line – OP doesn’t have a budget yet. How can anyone say a $7k dress is reasonable, regardless of if you like it or not?
Even the most gorgeous $7k dress is unreasonable if your budget is below a certain amount. That’s reality. And if you have to cut your guest list and save up for it 18+ months, my guess is you really can’t afford it. BUT – we don’t know that for sure until the OP sets a budget.
To me, that should be the focus. Not a fight over the look of the dress – that is a personal/emotional choice. But the budget is a measurable, practical thing that needs to be sorted out.
If you love it, buy it and then maybe try and recoup half by selling it after? That way your $7,000 will actually only cost $3,500!
And that isn’t the issue here. I don’t work in fashion and even I can easily tell the difference between dresses that cost $1k, $3k, and $7k. But just because a dress costs $7k unfortunately does not mean it will flatter the woman (ANY woman) wearing it.
My the sanctimony is strong in this thread. “I would NEVER tell 90% of brides here that their dresses are cheap cookie cutter pieces of shit, I have manners!” Please.
OP, the dress isn’t my style, but sometimes saving up for something you really want can be fun. And if you stockpile some savings, who knows. In 2 years you might find another dress that absolutely sings to you even more than this one and you’ll be able to buy it right then and there.
Why are we ragging on Muppets?
OP, if it’s in your budget, and you love it and it makes you feel fantastic, and you don’t mind guests who secretly think things about shredder cats and muppets and 90’s sweaters (or not so secretly gossip about it), and you would trim your guestlist anyway for some other element without having to agonize over it, get it.
I personally wouldn’t spend that kind of money unless a dress was objectively flattering and I could afford it without too much sacrifice, but that’s who I am.
I could never spend $7000 on a dress – but everyone has their own idea what is worth what. I’m spending a lot more on food, music, and the photographer than others would spend.
That being said, it’s a little sad to think about slashing the guest list for a dress. What’s more important – the dress, or the people you love? Are the feather *that* much fun that they’d outstrip the value of a full and happy dance floor? I think you could find a more flattering dress with feathers for half the price, no problem, and keep some of your guests!
can you get an identical dress made for less?
some people on these boards go around preaching manners etc, and then they are the same people that are so rude in the next post.
So many times i’ve seen people’s dresses, decor, invitations etc, and thought oh my god how ugly/tacky/hidious……. but i would never ever tell a bride that and discourage her from her vision.
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