- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I feel I had to do what needed to be done but I still feel super crappy about it. I took my sister who was my Maid/Matron of Honor out of the wedding for serval reasons I just couldn’t take it anymore, her additude was to much. My Mom was more less a single parent even though she was married to my brothers father but since she was having to provide for five kids almost by herself I helped raise my sister and younger brother, I am hard working and thought I passed on to them…wrong. My sister is so spoiled and if she doesn’t get her way she throws a fit. In the past year and half since I have been engaged she anything I like that she doesn’t in regards to my wedding she bitches me out for it…I wish I was making this up. When we went dress shopping she was throwing a fit bc she didn’t like anything and yelled at the sales girl, we finally found a dress after an hour but she wanted to make changes I told her she would pay for that but I would pay for the dress and she could me back but didn’t put a time limit on it since she was only working part time an she had just stared her job…she just got fired from it…bc of her temper…which is job number 4 she lost bc of her temper. I have just put up with her bc I love her and she is my sister I thought she was only giving me an additude but she recenlty she started to fight with my FSILs who are also my bridemaids, the fighting go so bad both of my fslis told me that if she had one more out burst they where only going stand in the wedding and nothing else….wth?? I didn’t know how bad it was so I told them I would talk to her for them. When I got home I sent an email out to all of them setting guide lines for them to follow, nothing major just who was taking care of what for the bridal shower and no more fighting. I don’t want to be over baring so I have let them pick their own dresses and I have not asked for help at all with any of the planning and as far as hair and make up I am letting them do whatever they want.
So yesterday I picked her up and we went to lunch and I had a long talk to her about her temper and how I would not take it anymore with the fighting with the other bm. She took it really well and everything was going great after lunch we went to pick up her dress. The second she saw it she said she hated it, I told her it was bc it was in the bag and she should try it on and she said ok. When she was trying it on and I finally got it zipped up she started to get mad bc the fit was wrong it was a simple fix that was going to be taken care through alterations. But she didn’t want ot hear it and started to fight with me so I left the fitting room to see if there was any way we could do to get a differnt dress…which of course I knew we couldn’t unless we bought a new one. While I was talking to the manager about what was needed on the alterations my sister came out and yelled and started cussing at the manager that she didn’t want this sh***y dress and she needed to make sure her employees knew what the hell they where talking about…omg. She shoved the dress into my hands and walked out of the store…i was beyond embarresed. I apologized to the manager and told her thanks for the help. When I got outside she said she was over the the wedding shit so I told her fine she was out. She started emailing and calling people about her not being in the wedding any more. I am so hurt that my sister will not just back off everything has to be about her and I am tired of it.
I know I did the right thing but I wish I didn’t feel so bad…maybe it is bc I am finally relizing what everyone has been telling me for years that she was just using me. Either way I just needed to vent.