Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch
So, originally, my bachelorette party was going to be going out to clubs and dancing and having fun. I originally knew that 1 or 2 of my attendees would be pregnant, but a week ago I found out my Maid/Matron of Honor is pregnant. I bought a super cute and kind of sexy dress for this event but now I don’t even feel like going out to the clubs to dance. I know my pregnants friends won’t be able to drink and aren’t going to have the energy to be out all night dancing. I’m pretty bummed but I want everyone to have fun, not just a couple of us.
I messaged my Maid/Matron of Honor today suggesting doing something else – a comedy club or drag show or something so that I can still wear my cute dress. I know she’ll probably say it’s okay and we can still go out to the clubs but I just don’t even want to anymore. I wanted it to be a fun night but I’m afraid I’ll just be worrying if everyone else is having fun.
Ughhh – sorry I just needed to get that out. Anyone else have any other fun ideas that we could do instead? Keep in mind I really want to wear my sexy dress I had gotten.
Post # 3
I’m 28 and not into the club/partying/getting wasted scene anymore so I wouldn’t care if everyone was pregnant! We are going to stay at a hotel and go out to a nice dinner, watch movies and hang out (and drink some champagne for those who want to), and then go to the spa and hang out by the pool the next day.
Post # 4
Maybe you can save the dress to go dancing with your new husband on your honeymoon?
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Piney River Ranch
@RunnerBride13: I’m 28 as well and wasn’t looking to get wasted – I just wanted a fun night of dancing. Of course I’d drink but I’m just afraid my pregnant friends won’t have the energy or desire to dance all night.
@lisaelanna: That’s a great idea, but we’re going to the Alps in Switzerland, so I don’t think there’s anywhere to go dancing in those small towns.
Post # 6
@copewedding: My Maid/Matron of Honor came out one year with me to a club for my birthday when she was only a month or two pregnant. If she is still willing to go you wouldnt want to? Also, you said 75% are pregnant? So that means someone isnt pregnant, right? I would still go and/or change to a comedy or drag club and still wear my dress.
Post # 7
ooh post a pic of the dress
mmmm id say a dinner and comedy club then
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
505 of my bachelorette party attendees were pregnant. We went to dinner downtown and then walked around some and got some ice cream. I wore a pretty awesome dress. Sure, it wasn’t a wild night out, but it was fun and absolutely perfect.
Post # 9
To me that just means more ladies to babysit you while your drunk. Win?
Post # 10
@copewedding: First, Switzerland for your honeymoon is awesome!!:)
It does stink that you won’t be able to have the bachelorette party that you envisioned, but you’ll still have a good time! You should encourage the women who are invited to be SUPER honest with you about what they would/wouldn’t want to do… there is nothing worse than planning, getting dressed up for and going out to a club only to have everyone be tired and bored and want to go home 45 minutes later.
If it were me, I would splurge on a really nice hotel (room service breakfast and bevies the next morning!), a fancy dinner (where you can enjoy a whole bottle of wine!! haha), maybe a show of some sort (I’m thinking Cirque du Soleil) or a few hours at a Spa… pamper the hell out of yourself!
Make the best of it! Try not to think about what you may be missing out on because that will just bring down the vibe of the whole night and make your friends feel bad. Enjoy yourself 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Oh damn. All those pregnant biddies!! Not gonna lie, I’d be bummed too.
Why don’t you plan just a random crazy, dancing night with a bunch of your other girlfriends, and if the BMs want to come they can? Not a wedding event, just for fun so you can let loose. You have to before you get married!!!
Post # 12
Feel ya! I was in same boat for my bachelorette party which was in November. 4 of my friends were pregnant , and 2 more couldn’t fly up so I only had 5 friends/maids go out w me. You will still have a great time , consider inviting sone additional friends!
Post # 13
I would suggest doing a series of fun “girls day out” type activities. Mani/pedis, go to a fun shopping mall, massages, paint pottery… Something that is wholesome, but that most women usually enjoy doing together. I’m thinking of the types of things I would like to do where I’m from, and there is a beautiful outdoor mall that is gorgeous so it’s shopping but also walking around, talking, enjoy each other’s company, there’s a pottery place with a cafe that sells delicious cupcakes and ice cream (plus other food) and I’m sure they have places like that all over (of course I don’t know where you’re located, but you can look into it)… Then, at night, you guys could maybe go downtown or into the city area and go for a really nice dinner. You could still wear your dress, and you’d still be out in a great environment with nightlife, but you just wouldn’t be dancing or hanging out in a club/bar where most people do like to have a few drinks. But then of course you could have a few drinks at the restaurant. I also like the ideas of a drag show or comedy club that you mentioned above.
Another idea that just came to me. Where I live there is a Hard Rock Hotel & Casino. Next to the hotel, there is an outdoor shopping center with restaurants, clothing/accessory shops, bars and clubs. Many people frequent the area, and some go to the bars and clubs, while others enjoy the nightlife of the restaurants. It’s possible there is something like that around where you are, just maybe not a Hard Rock.
Post # 14
Several of my girlfriends were pregnant at my bachelorette. I didn’t want them to have to fly so I flew out to California. Most of them live in San Diego and other parts of southern California so we did a girls weekend in LA. We started with lunch and desserts at Bottega Louie while we waited for everyone to get in to the city. They booked a few suites at Hotel Palomar. The weekend activities included Korean spa day (naked spa with 14 of your friends is a truly bonding experience), private room karaoke, dinners, and shopping.
One night after we returned from karaoke, some of the girls went to bed while several of us walked over to a bar. My sister in law is a tropper. She was pregnant and she still went out with us. We ended up at a UCLA Bruins bar on St. Patty’s Day. Several people asked us what year we were. We had to admit that we graduated college several years ago (some of us graduated at least 10 years ago). The only UCLA alum was my sis in law who went there for undergrad and has since gone to grad school and law school, gotten married, and was several months pregnant. The bar closed and we stopped for a late night meal at Denny’s.
On the way back, as we were running to cross Wilshire Blvd, two guys in a while Range Rover makes a u-turn and pulls over. I thought I sprained my ankle so I was lifting up my foot for my friend to look at and all of a sudden, I hear one of my BMs screaming, “we are not hookers!” over and over. I look over and noticed she was talking to some guys who pulled over. My other friend is a little out of it and has been blowing the penis whistle all night. I asked my friend if the guys needed directions and telling the guys sorry but we’re not from around here.
I don’t think it mattered that several of my girlfriends were pregnant. We still had a great time because we were able to hang out without the guys and without kids. LA was far enough from home that many of my girls were able to get away from their families but it wasn’t far enough that it was too tough for them to get to. It was good to hang out with everyone.
Post # 15
I’m 28, 8 weeks pregnant, and soooo looking forward to going out in a couple weeks for one of my great friend’s bachelorette party, as well as going out in October for my cousin’s ( and I’m a bridesmaid). Both parties will involve bar hoping and dance clubs. I know I will still have fun even if I’m not drinking. Yes, I may be slightly more tired, but thse are ladies very important for me and it will be a great night with them. Don’t think that preggo gals can’t still have fun out at the bar as part of a bachelorette party….especially if they care about you enough to want to do what YOU want to do for your day.
Post # 16
@copewedding: How far along are your friends? Why not ask, they may still be into dancing. Perhaps you could go a little earlier in the day (or a saturday so they can rest up) or go to arestaurant first, then dancing (so less standing).