Post # 1
Found out yesterday that my Matron of Honor is 6 weeks pregnant. My wedding is 8 months away. The first thing she did after she told me was APOLOGIZE! Can you believe that? Like “sorry my husband and I finally succeeded at doing this amazing thing we’ve had trouble with and some couples struggle with for years, because I’ll be a fatty and probably not much help at your wedding.”
I squealed and hugged her. I’m going to be an auntie again! None of my girls have bought their dresses yet so I told her she can pick first so she finds a comfy dress and we’ll just go with whatever in that line matches my colors. She can pick her shoes. She can do whatever the hell she wants. Fortunately she lives close by so there won’t be massive travel issues to contend with.
I’ve just had so many friends who’ve had trouble conceiving and it’s one of my fears that I will too. She hasn’t told anyone else yet (besides hubby) because she wants to wait till 12 weeks to make sure everything is ok. She and I were never especially close growing up – LOTS of sibling rivalry – and I’m so glad our relationship has improved so much over the last few years that she really wanted to tell me first.
I thought about it for a bit last night, relative to all the posts I’ve read on here about pregnant bridesmaids and the stealing of the bride’s thunder, and it occurs to me I just don’t give a shit. Sometimes all that matters is that I really freaking lucked out having such a great family and great future in-laws and I appreciate that more than I can say.
It’s the icing on my Link & Zelda-themed wedding cake. I am very happy today.
Post # 3
Congrats to your friend! It was also super thoughtful of her to let you know right away, before dresses were ordered. My Maid/Matron of Honor was 8 months along at my wedding, and luckily it was easy for her. We just had to order up a size for her dress, and have it altered last minute. Even in the last week her belly shape changed so the dress was a little off, but who cares, right?! I was just concerned about her being able to make it, and not be stuck home on bedrest.
Post # 4
@simplifiedbride: The bedrest things worries me a bit too… I told her that whatever she needs to do is fine with me and to try not to overdo. If she can make it but she’s not feeling too hot maybe she can walk up the aisle and then sit in the pew with our parents and then be in some pictures later and cut out early.
The ultimate complication is that she’d be in the hospital in labor or something, which… well, what can you do about that? It would be kind of interesting if she did have her kid that day – we have a lot of date twins in our family, shared birthdays.
Post # 5
I’m happy you’re happy. 🙂
I don’t understand some people’s negative attitudes towards pregnant bridesmaids either. My Maid/Matron of Honor is due about 2 months before my wedding and was also apologizing that she wouldn’t be much help with wedding planning – and she also told me she was hesitant to tell me about her pregnancy and make a big deal out of it because she didn’t want to take away from my excitement about my wedding! It’s so crazy. I know she’s just a considerate person, but I hate for her to feel that way.
Some people have asked me, “Are you upset?” Wtf. Brides getting irritated over pregnant bridesmaids is apparently common enough that the question has to be asked. Some people also just move right on to the teasing comments like, “Well, you’ve gotta cut her from the list now, right? She won’t fit in the dress! She’ll steal your thunder!” Ugh. Yes, I’m pissed that my close friend of 6 years, who is in a happy marriage and has a stable life, is going to have a baby. How dare she have functioning ovaries.