- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I aren’t engaged (yet) but everyone around me seems to think it will happen sometime in the near future… who knows? 😛 lol. We’ve had conversations about marriage, as have my mom and I. And even though I know this is completely preemptive, it’s been on my mind, so I wanted to ask you guys and see what you think!
I grew up in the Milwaukee area; he grew up in Madison. We went to school in Minnesota, and a lot of our friends still live there. Otherwise, our parents both live in the houses we grew up in, and we still have close friends in both cities. The majority of his extended family lives in Texas, and the majority of my extended family either lives in the Milwaukee area or out west in California/Nevada.
We actually ended up back (for him) in Madison after college, and we both love it. If we do get married, I honestly can’t see us getting married anywhere else but here (and he and I have already even identified a couple dream locations in town!). But… my mom thinks it would be a DESTINATION WEDDING. Really??? She seems to think we’d be better suited to get married in Milwaukee, and even though it’s my hometown, I just don’t see that being “us”. A large majority of my family lives in the Milwaukee area, so yes, they’d have to drive to Madison… which is 90 miles/an hour and a half away. Still, Madison would be just a little closer for our Minneosta friends, and it wouldn’t be that much different for our out-of-town guests – we have an airport that’s smaller and a little pricier than Milwaukee’s, but not by much. It would seem to me like planning a Milwaukee wedding would be more of a hassle for me than planning a wedding in the city we currently live in, but maybe that’s just me?
Anyway… am I crazy for thinking my mom is crazy? 90 miles to get to the city where the bride and groom (and groom’s parents) live and suddenly it’s a destination wedding? I want to be mindful of traveling guests but I really don’t think it’s that far or too much to ask. Let me know what you think! Thanks! (And sorry this is one big messy paragraph, I can’t figure out how to make spacing show up correctly…)