Post # 1
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Wannabee
I can’t wait to be married. I’ll say that first. But everything about this wedding just doesn’t feel like us.
We’re having an incredibly short engagement (5 months) because my mother insisted that we be married this year (while our Grandmothers are alive and well). The wedding is on a Sunday (due to religious reasons that parents wouldn’t budge on) with many out of town guests coming in. Our venue just told us that they will be doing renovations that won’t be finished in time for my wedding so they need to move our reception to the pavillion where my ceremony will be held or a basement conference space with low ceilings. I’m moving in with fiance today (for 2 months until his lease runs out then we will be finding our own place) so there’s also the added stress of moving.
It feels like everything is going wrong, and I’m mostly afraid people won’t have fun at our wedding. Atleast there will be an open bar, but what if people all go home early because they have work the next day. I sound pathetic, but I’m a wreck right now and thought I might be able to come here for support. My bridesmaids are all already married and had wonderful weddings but all live in another state than me so I have noone to tell me it’s going to be ok other than my fiance (who’s the best).
This wedding doesn’t feel like us at all. Anyone else at the mercy of their parents requirements? I want to be respectful, but I think i’ve lost interest in this day reflecting our vision.
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
With good food and an open bar people will enjoy themselves, even if they may not stay as late as they might at a Saturday wedding. How do you feel about the music you will have? Add good music to good food and drink and a great deal can go wrong and all will still be well.
Relax and focus on one thing at a time. I hope your move goes well and you wake up happy with your Fiance tomorrow morning!
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I agree with beethree. Good food + an open bar = a fun time. But if you feel the wedding doesn’t reflect you two as a couple, try to talk to your parents about it. Maybe there are some things you can change or add that will make it feel like you. Good luck and try not to stress about this. You will have a great time!
Post # 4
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Wannabee
beethree: Thanks for the comment. We got a good DJ that I’ve seen first hand at a ton of other weddings, so atleast thats a positive. Do you think it’s a huge deal that the reception is in the same room as the ceremony? There won’t be this “aha” reveal like other weddings where the reception is generally in the grand ballroom. I want to say so badly that I don’t care what people think, but admittedly, I’m afraid people will think our wedding was just ok.
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
icant: How do they flip the room? I don’t think it’ll take a way. So much about a wedding is about the people and the atmosphere and I feel like the Ah-ha moment is tied to that. A good DJ can make or break a party, so at least you have that. And I know, personally, for a really good friend I am staying at a Sunday wedding at least until I start to feel sleepy (well past 11).
Post # 6
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Helper bee
ive been to alot of weddings where the ceremony was in the recpetion room!!! its perfectly normal and those weddings were beautiful!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
My friend got married in the exact same room as her reception. The room wasn’t flipped. I wasn’t there to see it (I had two receptions to go to that day so I had to split my time between the two), but from the pictures I’ve seen and from what people said, it was totally fine.
Maybe it’ll be an added expense, but have you considered doing a small pre-party before the wedding? We’re not having a rehearsal dinner, but we’re having a nice afternoon get-together the day before the wedding. We’ll have food, the soccer game will be on, and it’s a nice way for people to get to know one another. I’m suggesting this because then you can add something of yourself back in without having to argue about date changes and such, especially so late into the planning stage.
But yeah, good food, good bar, and good music? It’ll be a good party. 😀