- 8 years ago
And the saga continues. In today’s episode of ‘As Wonderwoman’s World Turns’, today we find the heroine and her prince charming in a relaxed state with no distractions…….
The moment was perfect and low key, ripe for me to to bring up my feelings. Even though in yesterday’s post here, I expressed my struggle with whether or not to bring it up again, or just drop it. I didn’t drop it. But I did so in a very no pressure manner. We’re sitting there, and I say in a very non-accusuatory way “baby, why does it bother you when I bring up or mention us getting married?” He’s baffled, “why would you think it bothers me?” “Well, b/c everytime I do, you change the subject, or make jokes, or just ignore it all together” BF’s quiet for a few mins, and then says, “well, I know how y’all women get, all emotional when it comes to stuff like that, and men just don’t do that.” I was using the silence tactic, where you just shush while they feel the need to fill the silence. Boy did he fill it up: “I guess, my thing is, when a man goes to propose to a woman, and it’s supposed to be a surprise and all, how does he know what size ring to get? I don’t know what ring sizes are, it’s not like they’re shoe sizes. I can’t ask you, ’cause then it wouldn’t be a surprise. I’m not good at stuff like that.” (Bless his little pea-pickin’ heart, makin’ me feel sad for him by being such a clueless man 🙂 Just another one of the reasons I love him so) I proceeded to tell him that rings were perfectly capable of being re-sized if necessary, and that any jeweler can do so. And that he could always go into my jewelery box and get my class ring as an example, IF and when he wanted to. Then I jokingly threw in that he could then have the proposal done by a skywriter at the next Skyfest, a local annual airshow, that we had just gotten back from today. It got a huge laugh out of him, just like I figured, and it helped to keep the mood light. I also reassured him that there were plenty of other men out in the wild that weren’t good at that sort of stuff either, and that’s why they had us 🙂 We then went on to ‘hypothetically’ talk about things like how much stuff costs, the size of wedding we would both like to have, and a few other vague highlight points. Nothing to freak him out, but enough for me to get an idea of where his head is at. And basically, it’s not anytime soon, seeing as how he professed his lack of knowledge when it comes to buying a ring.
So, even though I’m pretty sure he’s not planning anything, (b/c if he was, he’d be the best actor ever, ’cause he’s usually abysmal at surprises and keeping secrets) I feel better that I don’t hafta walk on eggshells if the ‘M’ word comes up.
Sorry it’s so long, but thanks for listening, bees. And I welcome anyone’s stories about how clueless their SO’s claim to be too, lol.