(Closed) BYOB

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have never heard of BYOB for a reception and personally, I would never do it. I mean this in the nicest way possible, but I think it is horribly tacky.

If your venue allows you to bring in your own alcohol, consider yourself lucky. Pick up some wine, beer and a few bottles of liquor (depending on your guest count) at Costco or Sam’s. It won’t be terribly expensive and then you can get what you want!

Post # 4
Bee
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2008 - Oceanfront lawn and tent

Only you can decide what is right for your wedding.

I find it nicer to just provide what you can for guests (whether that is nonalcoholic drinks only, just beer and wine, or the whole deal) rather than asking them to fend for themselves.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it’d be worth it to spend the extra $70 on a keg, if it’s at all possible, to keep guests from being asked to bring their own alcohol.

Then again, I actually kind of like BYOB better than a cash bar. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We are having a BYOB rehearsal dinner and supplying wine and beer.  I think some discount liquor stores like bottle king will give you discounts when you order cases.  Even our local liquor store said he would!  I have to agree with the other responders though I would try to supply something like beer and wine.  It gets more difficult with hard alcohol just because then you need to also supply mixers and garnishes.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

My Fiance wanted to do BYOB for our engagement party, but in the end we decided to serve wine & beer instead of a full bar.  It seemed to go over well with our families (who, I will admit, are definitely drinkers).  Another option you could do is a "white bar" where you serve vodka, gin, rum, wine & beer (even though beer isn’t technically white).  

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I’m afraid your guests would be shocked by seeing a BYOB reception.  That is alittle uncommon.

But, it’s YOUR day and you can do whatever you want!  We are doing a lot of  things different at our wedding!  Whatever you want will make YOUR day perfect, it doesn’t really matter what the guests think.  🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It might be a little uncommon but it all depends on the couple.  An aquaintance had a potluck reception and BYOB and it turned out to be low key and fun which was just exactly the happy couple’s style.  I don’t think any of the guests minded at all.  At the end of the day, you can only do your best with the budget you have.  Good luck and have fun!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’d rather bring my own than be without, Emily Post be damned!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

While bluegreenjean makes a good point, I still think that BYOB for a wedding reception is kinda strange. I’ve never heard of it before. However, if you’re keeping it casual, it seems like it would be appropriate.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think that BYOB is only exceptable when it is a very informal, small, back-yard style reception.

If I were to attend a wedding where it was obvious large amounts of money were spent on other things (flowers, venue, the bride’s dress, invitations)and I was asked to BYOB, I would be insulted. To me a reception isn’t just a celebration of your marriage, but also a way to thank all those in attandance for their support.

Although not free, you can purchase a keg and some boxes of wine (boxed wine is getting better) for a couple hundred dollars at a "liqour warehouse" type of establishment.  You may not think it was the best investment at first, but trust me, your guests will thank you (and you will avoid the dreaded "t" word).

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I think BYOB is a little odd. You wouldn’t ask your guests to bring their own plates, or silverware would you? I don’t drink, but if I did I would probably rather go without then bring my own. Plus, if you do go with BYOB would your guests just hang onto the alcohol through the whole ceremony? Or would they have a place to put it to keep it cool? If you can’t afford the alcohol what about doing something cute like Miss Lemonade and her lemonade station?

http://www.weddingbee.com/2008/09/10/ceremony-refreshments/

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

My feelings on this are exactly the same as the odious cash bar issue: if you can’t afford to offer your guests something, then just plain don’t have it. Asking them to bring their own anything is rather icky – UNLESS you are having an open house potluck reception, which, although I find a strange concept, is apparently done in certain areas of the country. One of the wedding blogs had a post about one somewhat recently, perhaps Snippet & Ink? 

In My Humble Opinion, either don’t have alcohol at all, or offer only beer and wine – which can be bought inexpensively. 

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