(Closed) BridesMAN

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
43 posts

@Miss.M.Leigh: I recently went to a wedding where there was a “bridesman”. He stood by the bride’s side, but he wore the same thing as the groomsmen. He might have had a different colored tie or flower, but I can’t remember. I know he was really happy to be included in the wedding, and much more comfortable in his role than he would’ve been as a groomsman, since he did not know the groom well at all. 

Post # 4
2 posts

You are right.The groom should be dressed properly than the groom men.Because everyone’s attention is on the bride and groom.So the groom side people should think about it before going to the marriage ceremony.

Post # 5
1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our wedding party consisted of a Maid of Honor, 2 Bridesmaids, 1 Bridesman, a Best Man, 2 Groomsmen, and 1 Groomswoman. It just seemed silly to put my close male friend on his side just because he’s a dude, and his close female friend on mine just because she’s a woman.

Post # 6
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

it wont look weird at all.. just get him a little something different from the groomsmen, such as PP differnt coloured tie. Also everyone will be looking at you! seriously.. i have never payed much attention to the BMs or Groomsmen. So i ay do it!

Post # 7
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

i’ve pinched a grooms man he’s is a good friend to both of us and fi asked him to be one of his best men, but i wanted someone to walk me down the isle so he’s now on my side, well both sort of, all the men are wearing the same suit and all are wearing different cravats/ties however he will stand with the males once he’s walked me down the aisle. his wifes my moh and his children are my bm and page boy, as well as my own son. 

Post # 8
132 posts
Blushing bee

I wanted to have a bridesman.  I think he really wanted to be one, too, but he is a good friend of both me and my fiance and my fiance decided he wanted him to be his best man.  But I think it’s awesome!  You should totally do it. 

Post # 9
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

My brother is my Dude of Honor!

Post # 10
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Fiance and I originally had both a bridesman and a groomsmaid, but my parents freaked out.  They said everyone’s attention would be on them instead of us, and everyone would wonder the whole time if they were gay (despite the fact that the groomsmaid is dating one of the other groomsmen…?).  FI’s parents agreed, though they weren’t quite so vocal about it.  In the end, we switched them to their gender-appropriate sides to appease our parents, but I don’t think we would have regretted it if we hadn’t.  They are both very good friends to us, and we chose them for who they are instead of how they’ll make our pictures look.

It’s your choice, really.  I would think, however, about choosing your battles.  Part of the reason we switched our groomsmaid and bridesman was so that we could fight for even more important things later.

Post # 11
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I dont think this is weird and if he is one of your best friends is really dont think  you would ever regret your decision. My friends wedding had a big bridal party, the bride and groom wanted the groom sis to be in the Wedding Party so she stood up on her brother side with all the guys in the same dress as the maids, but in black to match the guys it didnt look funny at all if anything it was awesome because you could tell they didnt give a crap about gender and what most people do, they just wanted to have the people they cared about most up there with them. I think it will be fine if he wears the same things as the groomsman. It wont look out of place. It will be awesome.

Post # 12
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My best friend had one, and I’m having one. Same tux as the guys, and the groom gets to pick a close female friend. NOT weird at all!

Go fir it! Weddings are about people you love and sharing it with them, not out of the ordinary at ALL!

Post # 13
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m having a brides dude too. He’s my #1 homo. I’m his hag… LOL

Post # 14
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m doing a maid of honor and a MAN of honor (they are both my best friends from home) and 3 bridesmaids (college girlfriends and FI’s sister)!

I’m just going to make sure his tux is different enough from the grooms so its never confusing in pictures 🙂 hahaha

Post # 16
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m using my two brothers as my attendants. I don’t think it looks odd at all, and if he really is a good friend, then you’ll never regret it!

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