(Closed) Bridesmaid-zillas

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
380 posts
Helper bee

Wow.  I just wanted to offer sympathy for a horrible situation.  They have acted terribly.  I feel like I don’t know what advice to offer, except that it doesn’t sound like they’d be that fun or positive to hang out with on your wedding day.  Obviously something other than dresses and cake shopping is going on, and I don’t think I have the insight to know what that is.  

Do your fiance or your mom or your aunt (their mom) have any ideas on what to do?

Post # 4
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow! They are horrible. I think it is time to tell them off. You can’t continue to allow them to disrespect you. Also, why are they angry that they didn’t go cake tasting with you? My FH and I went by ourselves (it is not like they are paying for it).

Post # 5
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If my bridesmaids were acting up like this, I’d say to them ‘Thanks but no thanks. I don’t need this stress right now, I’d prefer if you weren’t my bridesmaids.’

Right now at 3 months out you need to be focusing on you, your fiance, your up and coming marriage and your wedding. Bridesmaids are supposed to be helpful and eliviate some of your stress, not add more on. I’d fire them and either appoint other friends, or go solo.

Post # 6
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can you talk to their mom or your mom? Is it possible they are angry about something that you aren’t aware of that is causing their behavior?  It seems inexcusable either way but maybe it would give you insight into what is going on.

Post # 7
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow that’s awful! I can’t believe how childish, selfish and just horrible they are acting!! They are being little brats and it’s not fair for them to treat you like that while it seems like you are being incredibly accomodating for them when selecting dresses! I would definitely try to find out what the heck is going on with them because I can’t think of anything that would make their behavior acceptable. If they don’t start treating you better I would honestly kick them out of the wedding. I know that would be a really hard situation, but do you want to listen to those two act like babies and possibly upset you on your wedding day? I don’t think it’s worth the risk personally. At least talk to them though to try and figure out what’s going on. I really hope things get better for you, you don’t deserve this!

Post # 8
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The way I would look at it is they aren’t really acting like your bridesmaids now because they aren’t there for you to help you That’s what a bridesmaid is supposed to do, support you. I would confront them and if they blow you off get rid of them in your bridal party. You probably will end up being a lot happier. You don’t need any more stress!

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