Post # 1
Are any of you guys having issues with bridesmaidzillas? It seems, one month before my wedding, their true feelings are coming out. I am just feeling nothing but hate and jealousy. And they are really trying to make it about them! Not that it has to be all about me- but you would just expect people to be a little less selfish and/or happy for your on the big day.
Has this happened to you??
Post # 3
@SookBee: I haven’t had any issues yet. What is it your bridesmaids are doing?
Post # 4
@KatNYC2011: Well one of them is trying to say she will not come unless her bf of one month can come. I already had a policy that we are only inviting people’s significant others if they are in serious relationships and they were in these established relationships before I sent out the invites. THey JUST started dating.
The two others have been bitching about my fiance and it came to light recently. I just feel like why should they want to be there on my day if they don’t respect the person I am with? And why sit and talk about me?
Post # 5
I just recently realized one of my BM’s is being a bit of a zilla. She’s not being helpful even when I tell her that I still have a lot of little details to sort out. She’s never asked if there was anything she could do to help. Plus she just started a relationship (her first serious one) and I understand that you’re totally gaga over each other, but when you and I haven’t seen each other in over a month and all you can do is text him while we’re together AND talk to him on the phone, well that’s not cool.
Post # 6
I’m a bit of a funny person at times, but I would call that one BM’s bluff. Let her know that you have your guest list is set and if she does not want to cooperate, you understand her not coming.
Do not give in to her bullying whatsoever. She what she does. If she stays, good. If she leaves, find someone who deserves your friendship
Post # 7
@Ryansgirl: I would give your bridesmaid a break about the dating thing. *TRY* to remember what it was like to be in love at first. We all do it, it’s always annoying to everyone around us, but think of this~ Give her a break now and you might wind up being a bridesmaid for HER. 🙂
Post # 8
I’m working on unfriending my Maid/Matron of Honor right now….it sucks but it has to be done. She’s just generally a flaky, selfish individual and I’ve had it..so has everyone else….
Post # 9
I second LuvMySailor‘s comment. Call her bluff–if she is cool with skipping your big day than you need to be as well. You don’t need the added stress.
Post # 10
i feel your pain! My 3 sisiters out of the 5 bm that i am having are the ones that are driving my crazy!
Personally i would call her bluff… if she doesnt care about your wishes enough to respect your position then you might have to re-evaluate your friendship
Post # 11
We’re using the same invitation rule, but extending +1 to all of our wedding party since they’re going so much more out of their way than anyone else attending (outfits, hair, parties, etc.)
However, if you have a really tight budget, you don’t always have the ability to do so and she’s got to understand that. It’s not like she was dating him from the start and you didn’t invite him – if invites have already been sent, then I’d stand firm and tell her you cannot accommodate her request.