(Closed) Bridesmaidzillas

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SookBee: I haven’t had any issues yet. What is it your bridesmaids are doing?

Post # 5
Member
4162 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just recently realized one of my BM’s is being a bit of a zilla.  She’s not being helpful even when I tell her that I still have a lot of little details to sort out.  She’s never asked if there was anything she could do to help.  Plus she just started a relationship (her first serious one) and I understand that you’re totally gaga over each other, but when you and I haven’t seen each other in over a month and all you can do is text him while we’re together AND talk to him on the phone, well that’s not cool.

Post # 6
Member
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SookBee:

I’m a bit of a funny person at times, but I would call that one BM’s bluff. Let her know that you have your guest list is set and if she does not want to cooperate, you understand her not coming.

Do not give in to her bullying whatsoever. She what she does. If she stays, good. If she leaves, find someone who deserves your friendship

Post # 7
Member
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ryansgirl:  I would give your bridesmaid a break about the dating thing. *TRY* to remember what it was like to be in love at first. We all do it, it’s always annoying to everyone around us, but think of this~ Give her a break now and you might wind up being a bridesmaid for HER. 🙂

Post # 8
Member
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m working on unfriending my Maid/Matron of Honor right now….it sucks but it has to be done.  She’s just generally a flaky, selfish individual and I’ve had it..so has everyone else….

Post # 9
Member
24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I second LuvMySailor‘s comment. Call her bluff–if she is cool with skipping your big day than you need to be as well. You don’t need the added stress.

Post # 10
Member
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

i feel your pain! My 3 sisiters out of the 5 bm that i am having are the ones that are driving my crazy!

Personally i would call her bluff… if she doesnt care about your wishes enough to respect your position then you might have to re-evaluate your friendship

Post # 11
Member
2755 posts
Sugar bee

We’re using the same invitation rule, but extending +1 to all of our wedding party since they’re going so much more out of their way than anyone else attending (outfits, hair, parties, etc.)

However, if you have a really tight budget, you don’t always have the ability to do so and she’s got to understand that. It’s not like she was dating him from the start and you didn’t invite him – if invites have already been sent, then I’d stand firm and tell her you cannot accommodate her request.

 

The topic ‘Bridesmaidzillas’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors