(Closed) Bullying

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@UpstateCait: I’m sorry that you are feeling this way and that your cousins have the potential of the bullying happening to them as well. I seriously don’t get all this bullying, and why kids think it is okay to engage in this sort of behavior. I’m not that old (in my 20s still) and I don’t remember things being as bad as they are today (bullying, drugs, etc). I was kind of on the fringe of things–definately wasn’t cool by any means at all. I’ll certainly keep these kids and their parents in my thoughts…

I could say I don’t know why more is being done, but really, who’s responsibility is it to do something? The school and community definately play a part, but, in your case where the kids are being expelled or given detention, are their parents stepping in and laying down the law, and if not, why?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

That is so sad. It’s pretty much turning into an epidemic now. Large schools, small schools, urban, rural…setting doesn’t seem to matter; there are douche bag kids everywhere who are crazy cruel to their own classmates. All these anti-bullying programs in schools seemed to have brought us nowhere; the problem just keeps growing. I hate to sound so defeatist, but I wonder if this generation of junior/senior high kids is just going to have to be a write-off as far as curbing bullying is concerned. Maybe parents of this current generation should home school/alternative school their kids who are being hardcore bullied. In the meantime, maybe communities need to start targeting new, young parents, to teach them HOW TO RAISE KIDS WHO AREN’T DOUCHE BAGS. Teach parents how to instill values such as tolerance, empathy, understanding, and enough self-confidence and self-esteem to not just go with the douche bag crowd and add to the bullying. I’m sorry but I’m getting fed up with the horrible parenting out there, and I think that anti-douchebagery needs to begin at home.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am a high school teacher, and because I teach ninth graders, I see the worst of it. Bullying and intolerant language is one area where I am not lenient at all with my students. If I see or hear anything of that nature, that student is out and with the principal, and I write up a referral. I had a student harassing a girl in my class because she is a lesbian, and as soon as I heard it, he was out of there. Thankfully I have a very supportive administrative staff at my school, so they backed me up 100% and that student received out of school suspension. It hasn’t been an issue since with that student. As a teacher, I feel as though it’s my job to stick up for these students and ensure that they feel safe at school. Too many educators turn their heads because bullying is difficult to deal with, and it shouldn’t be that way.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@UpstateCait: My heart seriously breaks for those good parents. It is so unfair and cruel to those families.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If there were away to prove that the suicide was direct result of the bullying, I would be all for charging the kids with murder. Even though they weren’t committing the physical act, they were still committing murder. Or at the very least, they should be arrested and charged with harassment and schools should take a zero tolerance policy similiar to what they do with drug use.

@bride123: I love the douchebag references. If there was a mandatory “Teach your Kids NOT to be a Douchebag” class that parents had to take, I’d be all for that, too.

I can’t say that I blame the parents 100% of the time, because some kids are just born douchebags, BUT, I would say it is becoming very commonplace (at least in what I have seen in interactions between co-workers and their teenagers and some friends who have teenage siblings and their parents) that parents, frankly, don’t have a sack. They let their kids get away with, in my opinion, is way to much and let them run the show. It makes me kind of afraid for the day that these entitled former teenage bullies enter the workforce .

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ya what is going on lately? I mean seriously? There has been a lot of bullying in my area too and I knew a guy who committed suicide because of this. Kids are just cruel, period. It is really sad. Whatever happened to kicking someone’s a$$ when they bullied you?! My Fiance said when he was in school and someone was picking on, you would kick their a$$… end of story.  

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think that people put too much stake into what parents can do about their kids bullying.  I agree with some of the PPs that things have gotten worse – I’ve been a teacher for 3 years and even in that time i’ve seen a change.  What i haven’t seen change since i was a student is young people’s unwillingness to listen to what their parents say, and in some cases their compulsion to do the EXACT opposite.  For me and most of my friends in the early 90s, that was smoking, drinking and drugs…specifically because there was so much campaigning against it and our parents were made so aware of the problems and always tried to have heart-2-hearts about it, it just made us want to do it more.  I see the same thing happening with bullying.  At my school, not a week goes by without an assembly, or a focus group, or a year session on bullying or cyberbullying.  This doesn’t reduce bullying AT ALL, and if anything, in the cyberbullying sessions, the girls get new ideas on how to torture each other. 

All that being said, i don’t have a solution.  With drinking and drugs, for me and my friends at least, as soon as we were legal to do it (drink, that is – still waiting for it to be legal for me to burn one), we did it alot less and to a much lesser extent when we did.

Kids and teenagers are rebellious by nature.  The more you try and contain their behaviour, the more they are going to express themselves in inappropriate and sometimes dangerous ways.  As much as we need to mourn the loss of children that succumb to bullying, i do think that the focus thats put on it by parents and schools is making things worse.

One of my long term goals is to set up an outdoor education facility with no phones or computers where kids (girls specifically) can spend weeks or months being physically and mentally challenged to their limits – i know that for myself as a kid/student, once i knew what I was capable of and could overcome, i was less inclined to berate anyone for anything. 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@nqz100: True, some kids *are* just born douchebags! And yeah, I weep for our future workforce…ugh.

Post # 14
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Newbee

Some states have passed bullying laws, which sadly enough seems to be needed. The laws they are passing require written documentation about the incident and the consquences ect. I know my schools make ohone calls, home to parents when this occurs. I work at 3 private schools and one public school. I know in New Husband we now a bullying law like that? check to see what if anything your state has for bullying laws, or even the school. Some schools having bullying rules…if not try talking to either your principal, superindent, or state representitives to see if something could be done. Hope that helps.

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