(Closed) CATHIE

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: who controls the seating chart
    bride : (27 votes)
    93 %
    family of bride : (2 votes)
    7 %
    mother in law to be : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @CATHIE:  Perhaps you could strike a compromise?  Maybe select certain tables that are for her guests and allow her to choose which ones sit where at them.  That way she feels she has some control, but you have some say as well.

    Post # 4
    748 posts
    Busy bee

    I say the bride and groom do the seating chart. allow input from family, but don’t let them control it.

    Post # 5
    5480 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I did the seating chart with my MIL.  I don’t know her family, who likes whom, or where they should sit.  She doesn’t know my family either.  So, I gave her the even tables, I took the odd tables, and we did a map of the room and put people at tables.  Bada-BING, done, no drama.

    Post # 6
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My FI and I will sit down and discuss the seating chart.

    Post # 7
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Allow her to have input as she will likely know about some dynamics with her family and friends that you just would have no way of knowing, such as Friend A and Friend B can’t stand each other. That will really be helpful to you. BUT, YOU get the final say. And unless she is paying for and hosting the wedding, they aren’t technically “her” guests.

    Post # 8
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Your MIL might know best where here friends want to sit and who they want to sit by. I’d welcome her opinion on it. Everyone else has to sit where you want!

    Post # 9
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I voted the Bride, but since she knows her side she could help you.

    Post # 10
    9145 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Whom is hosting (i.e. paying for the reception)?  Usually whomever is hosting does it with the bride.  This is sticky because it seems that your MIL has contributed some money to the reception.  She can have some say but final say would go to you.  I do like PP’s idea of giving her a portion of the tables to seat her additional 75 guests at; just bear in mind that those tables can’t all be in the back.

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