Post # 1
My mother in law to be has questioned many of my choicsz and indicated she did not like my plans. I wanted a smaller elegant wedding and they insisted on more people and offered to pay for 75 additional guests. I should have stuck to my guns and not allowed more people
Now she wants to control the seating charts and demands to do this as they are her guests.
What should I do? I really feel my husband to be and I should control this issue.
Post # 3
@CATHIE: Perhaps you could strike a compromise? Maybe select certain tables that are for her guests and allow her to choose which ones sit where at them. That way she feels she has some control, but you have some say as well.
Post # 4
I say the bride and groom do the seating chart. allow input from family, but don’t let them control it.
Post # 5
I did the seating chart with my MIL. I don’t know her family, who likes whom, or where they should sit. She doesn’t know my family either. So, I gave her the even tables, I took the odd tables, and we did a map of the room and put people at tables. Bada-BING, done, no drama.
Post # 6
My FI and I will sit down and discuss the seating chart.
Post # 7
Allow her to have input as she will likely know about some dynamics with her family and friends that you just would have no way of knowing, such as Friend A and Friend B can’t stand each other. That will really be helpful to you. BUT, YOU get the final say. And unless she is paying for and hosting the wedding, they aren’t technically “her” guests.
Post # 8
Your MIL might know best where here friends want to sit and who they want to sit by. I’d welcome her opinion on it. Everyone else has to sit where you want!
Post # 9
I voted the Bride, but since she knows her side she could help you.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Whom is hosting (i.e. paying for the reception)? Usually whomever is hosting does it with the bride. This is sticky because it seems that your MIL has contributed some money to the reception. She can have some say but final say would go to you. I do like PP’s idea of giving her a portion of the tables to seat her additional 75 guests at; just bear in mind that those tables can’t all be in the back.