(Closed) Caught

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: have you caught him?
    No : (125 votes)
    55 %
    Yes and I scolded him for it : (9 votes)
    4 %
    Yes and it didn't bother me : (93 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    FI’s a grown up, he can do whatever he wants with his body (within reason). I have “caught” him before but it’s no big deal. The only time he ever really does it is at night, if I’m not in the mood and I think he normally assumes I’m sleeping when he goes at it. 

    Post # 4
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    3166 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @UpstateCait: “FI’s a grown up, he can do whatever he wants with his body (within reason)”

     

    This.

    Post # 6
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    3166 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @wbrn: Personally, I think it’s pretty effed up & controlling to try and tell your partner when they can and can’t jack it. I would assume if they were both home together he would try and initiate something with her first anyway. So… if she’s not in the mood then what, he’s got to tell it to go down? That’s just weird to me.

    Post # 7
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    1314 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    @UpstateCait: agreed. I wouldn’t ‘handle it’! I don’t mind that he masturbates. He’s a grown man….not my 16 year old son!

    Post # 8
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    3638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    There’s nothing wrong with it. I see it as a completely different thing from sex. Sex is about the needs of two people and intimacy, there is a lot more that can “go wrong” and so it requires higher concentration. Self pleasure can just be a release, a relaxing thing just between you and yourself, it needs no real thought process.

    It only becomes a problem when it increases and sex drive decreases. 

    Post # 9
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m curious as to who “scolds” their SO/FI/DH’s for this?

    Post # 10
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    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    When he does it when I’m not there, I feel left out. BUT. I do it when he’s not here as well. 🙂 It’s just more fun when we do it together (and yes, I mean masturbate together, which normally ends in sex). He was doing that LONG before I met him, lol.

    Post # 11
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    86 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I said Yes and it doesn’t bother me, but I’ve never caught him in the act, we just have open communication about it.

    Post # 12
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    4546 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I can’t imagine scolding my Darling Husband for this. It’s his body for goodness sake. I don’t “own” him and his body. Actually I enjoy watching him pleasure himself sometimes 😉 He’d rather me do it so he doesn’t do it without me but I’ll do it without him sometimes (usually during period time).

    Post # 13
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    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’d rather my husband not do that if i was home… i wouldn’t care but if i knew then i’d be like “umm hello? we could have had sex or i could have just done something for you”.

    i’m not saying i’d tell him not to do it… and i never would because i know he wouldn’t if i was home… he’d come looking for me instead

    Post # 14
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    2018 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Well, I voted no because I haven’t caught him at it (though he does play a lot of pocket pool on the couch watching t.v:) but I was very surprised when he let drop recently that he still pleasures himself fairly often. We have sex every single day so I thought he would have lost a little interest in his own hand. Lol but he told me that he just liked it, so he does it. As long as he has plenty for me, I guess I don’t mind:)

    Post # 15
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    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ve never “caught him,” but it wouldn’t bother me. Making rules about it is just… creepy to me.

    Post # 16
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    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It doesn’t bother me when he does. Often times it is when I am sleeping and I can’t help him out. 😉

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