Post # 1
Hello! I am recently engaged, and after having a conversation with my sister was told it’s rude to have a Adult Only wedding and reception. I reconsidered until writing out a guest list and realizing actually how many cousins I have including kids (61) and that’s just my people, not my fiancee or the people my parents are considering. I understand it is our wedding and we can do as we choose but I just want an opinion. Has anyone ever had an Adult Only wedding that cause people not to attend because they found it offensive. Or have you been in the position, where your children couldn’t attend and you were offended?
Post # 3
we chose to allow kids 16 and over only. For the little ones we set up a hotel room with pizza and movies (since our reception was at a hotel) so we didn’t have to shell out tons of extra cash on feeding them for the reception. We did allow them to come down for dancing though.
Personally I would not be offended – if i was going to a wedding I would leave my child with my parents or something. Free food, drinks and dancing! thats a date night for me and my husband.
Post # 4
We have been invited to Adult Only weddings, and were in no way offended. The only issue was in finding a sitter for our children and budgeting in whatever the cost would be to pay the sitter. If we couldn’t find someone to watch the kids or just couldn’t budget the cost of the sitter in, we have had to opt not to attend. So the only downfall of not inviting children, in my opinion, is that some couples will not have the option of attending. 🙂
With that said, I have enjoyed weddings much more when I have been able to leave my little ones with a sitter and could view the night as a date night with my husband, lol.
Post # 5
i have a little one and no one i know has has an Adult only Reception but i totally get it and would not be offended but hey at the same time you are never going to make everyone happy so do what you want its you and Fiance big day!!!
Post # 6
I’m having an adult wedding only. Both my fiance and I wanted it that way. The only thing that might be difficult is if they are out of town. I told my out of town people if they are in need of a sitter I would help find one. The kids can play it up in the hotel and watch movies etc. it would be more fun for them anyway 😉
Post # 7
My oldest sister told me the same thing about date night. She said especially if it was in the evening.
Post # 8
Why would it be offensive to have what YOU want at YOUR wedding?
Post # 9
Thank you everyone for your help! We will take it into consideration.
Post # 10
There are a lot of threads with brides fighting with family becasue of this
Post # 11
Sorry to be so harsh, I sometimes overreact when I hear other people saying what we want to do is rude. Yes, we want to share and celebrate with people we care about but come on… at some point I have to draw the line and say this is our day and if you don’t like it, tough. It’s not about “you”.
Post # 12
Weddings are adult events often with loud music, drinking, and can run very late. Not an environment for young children. People need to understand this. Surely they can part with their offspring for half a day.
Post # 13
Good Luck whatever you decide! I didn’t think it was rude and I wouldn’t think it was rude if I had children and told it was an adult event unless the person literally said I don’t like your kids they can’t come. However, when I posed the adult only my FI’s family completely flew off the handle and things blew up bad. I often see a lot of the same problem on here too.
Post # 14
I don’t know when it became acceptable to bring children to weddings.
I am also having an adult-only reception. If you send out the invitations with enough time or Save the Dates, they should have no problem finding a sitter. A baby sitter is NOT that expensive. You are getting married! This is a big deal, so if anyone chooses to not go because they feel inconvienced, then they don’t deserve to share in the most special day of your life. Weddings are not for children. They run around and bump into the wait staff and make them drop glasses and plates of food. I see it every weekend as I coordinate weddings. Oh and kids ALWAYS stick their fingers in the cake and ruin the design before you get a chance to pose in front of it with your new husband.
Post # 15
Since we have children we are havning them during the dinner and then they will have a sitter, also my fiances siblings have children, and they are the only children that will attend so in total 8 children .. I invited my cousin wich is over 16 because she babysists for us and we are very close, I forexsample did not invite her brother because he is under 16 ..
We will be serving acohol, and the church is at 18:00, so the reception starts around 19:30, and I think people should kinda figure it out that they should not bring there children, I would not bring my own children to a wedding unless is would be really really close and they would like to have the kids.
And like someone else said, wedding are for me and my fiance, not for the kids. I enjoy them alot more when its just the two of us.
We are going to 3 wedding in july before our own in August, and I did not even think about taking the kids with us. And I dont find it rude that people would tell me not to bring my kids, its there day !
My fiance did want to invite all the kids in our family wich is around 50-60 kids ! And I said no, first of all I am not paying for nice expesive food for 50-60 kids that dont even like it, and having to buy something else to satisfy there needs, so we found our solution with only inviting his siblings kids 🙂