(Closed) Cohabitation

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
Member
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We lived together for… maybe 3 years before we got married and we had no problems getting married in the Catholic church.  This type of problem is really priest-specific, though: some priests care, some don’t.  As long as you’re honest and open to discussing your situation with your priest, you’ll probably be fine.  🙂  Good luck!

Post # 4
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665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m not the Catholic, he is. We’ve lived together for about 2 years. We just met w/ his Deacon this past weekend. He asked us the “do you live together” question and he didn’t care… its for financial reasons, but he said Monsignor would hassle us about it. Aside from uncomfortable feelings due to questions making me feel like a bad person, no biggie. 😉

Post # 5
Member
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We live togather and had no problems, thankfully! I was worried too though to be honest.  Good luck!

Post # 7
Member
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I lived with my fiance…before we started dating! We actually lived in the same house for a year doing a volunteer program together. Now I live with roommates and he lives on his own. It’s a little different. We do get teased about how we’ve already lived together!

Post # 8
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

There were 23 couples in our marriage preparation course and all but one were cohabitating and about half had children with their partner. Not one couple was made to feel bad about this at all which I thought was great!

Post # 9
Member
1556 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s really a priest-specifid question.  Our priest asked us for our addresses.  I gave him the address of my house and Fiance gave him the address of his house.  The priest didn’t inquire further than that.  If he had, we’d have had to admit that Fiance pretty much lives with me. 

Post # 10
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

I live with my fiance, it’s because of dire financial issues and no other choice.  I’m hoping my priest is understanding.  My fiance and I have separate rooms so we’re living chastely.

Post # 11
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549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We have been living together for about 2.5 years, and our priest just talked to us about that decision, and how we came to it etc. and then he was fine with it.  I think they want to see that you didnt dive into the decision lightly… at least thats what our priest said!

Post # 12
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2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well he is Catholic, I’m not. This WAS the one issue that kept coming up. Our priest isn’t refusing to marry us, but we did get lectured on it. We were told on multiple occassions that nothing special will change between us once we’re married like it is “supposed to happen”. That annoyed me, because we feel like what we have is very special and will still be enhanced by marriage. This also led to be grilled on whether we have sex. THAT was the worst part. I hated discussing my sex life with total strangers and being judged and told that we were basically doing things all wrong. But we learned to just smile and nod and cringe through the awkwardness. Now thank goodness the next time I see anyone church related it’ll be when I walk down the aisle 🙂

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