Post # 1
I have been in a relationship for 10 years with my now fiance. We recently got engaged this past June. Prior to getting engaged I was confiding in my cousin that I really wanted him to propose and was telling her details that he was saving for a ring. She became involved in a relationship and as soon as she met the guy she was pushing to get married. Two months later she was pregnant and engaged. I think that she did this to try and beat me to it. When I found out she was engaged I congratulated her and complimented her ring. Four months later when I finally got engaged she didn’t even want to look at my ring. Now that she’s finding out that we are planning a wedding she wants to rush and get married at City Hall. She’s been with the guy barely a year.
This is all just not a coincidence because growing up she always tried to compete. I got a new car a couple of years ago and she would avoid having to look at it and two weeks later went out of her way to get a new car as well. When I was pregnant and my now fiance would go to family functions she would sit in a room and cry because she was along and was a single mother.
I’m so frustrated that I’m keeping my distance. What should I do?
Post # 3
Honestly some people just get jealous and deal with it the only way they know how!
Does it really matter that she got engaged before you? NO, you are with the man of your dreams and you are going to spend the rest of your life with him.
Does it really matter if she gets married before you? NO, you are going to have fun planning the wedding of your dreams for the time when you want to have it and it will be PERFECT!
She will regret doing things in such haste instead of on her own timeline. Do things your way on your timeline and don’t let her bring you down!
Post # 4
she’s clearly insecure, so bask in your security and rise above it.
Post # 5
Maybe the reason she is rushing to get married is because she randomly got pregnant? And yes, she might be jealous, but it sounds like she is having a shotgun wedding so why wouldn’t she be. I highly doubt she got pregnant just to spite you.
Post # 6
Man i’d feel bad for her.
Post # 7
This definitely sounds like she’s trying to beat you to the punch with everything. I agree with FMM – hold your head high, take your time and have the wedding of your dreams…b/c you’re getting married to the man of your dreams! She’s rushing into things, and I have a feeling she’s going to regret this later. 10 years down the line, when you’re still blissfully happy, and she’s miserable, she’ll find out that it wasn’t worth trying to compete!
Post # 8
I think you should distance yourself from her, especially if she’s been doing this your whole life and it’s obviously bringing you down.
Maybe don’t give her any info on your wedding, vendors etc. That way she won’t know anything that you are doing so she won’t be able to try competing with you.
Post # 9
I agree with the PP – definitely don’t divulge any details or information about your wedding planning to her.