Post # 1
My husband and I were married just about a year ago. Our family gave us a bridal shower however we only had a Courthouse ceremony with our parents and siblings present (no reception). My husband was not a practicing Catholic at this time. After a year of being married and my husband accompanying me to mass each Sunday, we have decided to have our marriage CONVALIDATED. We have spoken to the Deacon at our Parish and he is allowing us to have a traditional Catholic wedding mass with family and friends a big dress and the whole nine yards.
Now, I am in the process of finding a place to hold our reception. We have a small budget and have a few places in mind as to where to hold our reception.& dont plan on anything super fancy since we are already married.
I am a little indecisive as to exactly how I want the reception to go. Everyone knows we have been married for the past year & by then we will have been married for two years. I want to wear a wedding dress and we will have a bridal party however I am unsure as to how I can let it show and be known that we arent getting married TWICE or trying to portray this.. instead we want to celebrate that we are now married the right way in the eyes of our Faith and Beliefs.
I need ideas for the invitations and reception.
All help or ideas are welcomed.
Post # 3
Include pamphlets or something. But honestly, the way you word your invitations will be key. Don’t say “wedding”, say “convalidate” and then you could write a personal note. Something like this:
After one blissful year of marriage, you have decided to have our marriage convalidated in the catholic church and celebrate with your friends and family. Ceremony to be performed at 3pm, blah blah blah, with dinner, drinks, and dancing at the ____ at 7pm or whatever.
I think avoiding “wedding” and “reception” will help everyone understand it’s not necessarily a second wedding. You can include notes on the programs about how this corresponds to your Catholic beliefs.
As far as reception–do you want the traditioanl wedding stuff, like cutting of the cake and stuff? I don’t see why you can’t have it (since you didn’t have a reception the first time), but it does scream ‘reception’ to me. Maybe make the reception more of a casual cocktail party style. Forgo the traditional formalities of a regular reception and give it a loungey, laid back party kind of vibe.
Post # 4
a good friend of mine married a Frenchman and she is catholic. they did the wedding in the us and then for the ceremony they called it a blessing of the vows in france. she wore her same dress, but they didn’t have a bridal party and then afterwards they had the traditional French wedding reception (waay too much food waaay too much wine and tons of fun!) I think people will be excited to celebrate with you and you should wear a wedding dress! I would call it a vow celebration or something and use the invitations to make it clear that you are celebrating your existing marriage in a new way.
Post # 5
I think the invitation is going to be the important part. Maybe instead of saying “honor us with your presence as we celebrate our marriage,” it could read something like, “honor us with your presence as we renew our marriage vows,” or “as our marriage is recognized by the Catholic church.”
I would treat it more as a vow renewal probably.
Post # 6
Thank you, I was thinking along the same lines as all of your suggestions. I was just concerned and maybe stressing out as to how it would might viewed in the “ettiquite” sense!