(Closed) Dowry

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Is your FI going to give your father dowry before Daddy gives your hand away in marriage?
    Yes : (0 votes)
    No : (44 votes)
    98 %
    Other - Explain below : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I always thought it was the other way around… the bride’s family sends her off to her FI with animals, linens, expensive household goods, although I haven’t heard of anyone doing this in the past few generaions. Maybe it’s reversed in some cultures.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Do people still do this? In either direction? (To groom’s family or to bride’s family)

    Post # 5
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Not for us, and I haven’t really heard of it being done these days, but then again, Vermont isn’t full of the most rich culture… Undecided

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @LilDrAnya:  +1 I also thought it was the bride’s family’s payment to the new husband.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    I thought that it was the other way around too. I thought that the brides family gave the groom a dowry to cover the expense of keeping her in their family. Like china, paper, livestock, and land. I’ve never heard of the groom giving the bride’s father a dowry.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Well..its funny since we’re a intercultural couple..Chinese and Jewish.

    My mom briefly mentioned that my aunts had been saying that she would regret it if she did not collect Dowry for me from my DH….he said..well in my culture the bride’s family pays for the wedding.

    Some of the dowry items would have been funny too..the bride’s family receives an entire roast pig as part of the dowry..yeah not happening from a Jewish family.

    Nothing else was said about collecting Dowry from whom after that..

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee

    Dowry is by definition “Property or money brought by a bride to into marriage.”  Money paid by a groom to the bride’s family can be referred to as “bride-price” or, if you prefer by the term used in the language of the culture that practices bride-price, such as “lobola” or “sin sot”.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee

    My father paid $1000 and promises of renovations on their house to my new Thai step mother’s family. I felt like it was really different….

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think this is an awful tradition, and no, I don’t care that it is still done. Women are not objects that need to be bought, and nobody owns us. Not our husbands, not our fathers.

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