Post # 1
My husband and I eloped 8 months ago. It was just us there…completely intimate and special. There was no stress at all.
I have been processing our wedding a lot, and really am struggling. I iwsh my dad walked me down the isle. I wish my sisters were there to greet me when I walked up to meet my love. I wish I could have given my mom a big hug. I wish his grandmother and mother were there to witness the ceremony. I wish I got to dance with my dad.
My heart aches.
I love him dearly, but I feel a need to apologize to my family and his. I wish our family was there so badly. Thoughts?
Post # 3
@happyday5: how about a mini wedding ceremony to recreate the moment? I’m pretty sure that, at the end of the day, both of your families will understand why you two chose to elope!
Post # 4
Could you do a 1 year vow renewal mini-ceremony and then a big party/reception after??
Post # 5
Are you sure this is about your wedding or your marriage? Not to say you’re having trouble but maybe that’s the problem. It’s been 8 months. You said it was intimate and special. That sounds like an amazing experience. By now it’s normal to be concentrating on your actual marriage. Is there something missing in your day to day life that has you focusing on the past? Is there something you can do or add to your life to help you focus on the here and now and your future – new hobby, new class, decorating your home, planning for a party or a trip, etc? Cause something may be off somewhere for you to be concentrating on what’s been and gone 8 months later.
If everything is fine, you can always have a vow renewal in 5 or 10 years and plan a small, intimate ceremony then.
In the meantime, try to concentrate on the benefits of eloping – you didn’t stress, didn’t spend $1,000s, didn’t cry over other people’s expectations or wants, didn’t lose relationships because of other people’s selfishness, and still got to marry the man you love. In the end, that’s the goal. That’s the prize. Too many brides are suffering from post-wedding blues because they got so wrapped up in the planning that it became their life. The relationship, the marriage, is suppose to be your life. Make that your focus.