- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
In the midst of so many pressing matters non-wedding and wedding related (moving in with Fiance, starting a new job, finding a beautiful wedding ring and then learning it can’t be made in time for the big day, looking into security measures for the wedding day because I’ve a very hostile former friend, and mediating a huge fight that just erupted between two close friends) I’m having to deal with presumptuous guests who feel entitled to a “plus-one.”
They’re saying it was “confusing” their response card was pre-filled in as ” ___ of 1 will attend” when their envelope was clearly labeled, outer and inner, with only their name. Or, they’re trying to substitute in any ol’ friend or friend-of-friend for their significant other, who can’t attend, when their invite was clearly addressed to both of them, because it will somehow be more convenient for them. So they press and press and press and try to negotiate to get their way, instead of realizing the big picture and being mindful of the domino effect they cause.
I’m a sensitive gal. I understand that it is the ideal situation to have someone to dance with, talk to, etc. at a wedding and I really wish we had the budget to include everyone “and” guest…but we do not.
We definitely honored long-standing relationships, but we cannot accommodate and-guests. Sorry. We would rather have people we love there than people we don’t know, and we must limit our budget. We would much rather invite someone else we know and love than a guest’s latest poorly-behaved fling, or a guest’s ride to the event, or a guest’s host for the weekend.
It’s a five hour wedding. Five. The whole thing start to finish. Five. There’s a ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner and dancing, lots of fun stuff in between for all to feel included. Everyone is loving and welcoming, and everyone knows at least 5 other people there in a positive way. So can people just frickin’ hold it together for five hours for the sake of an event in honor of something other than themselves? Please?