Post # 1
In High school I dated a guy for three years. He was a super nice guy, and was really good friends with all my friends in high school. So when we broke up senior year it was really ugly. We got to be friends again after he finished his basic, but my FH still doesn’t like him and he doesn’t like my FH. When i told my ex my FH has proposed he hung up on me and refused to talk to me. Now he has called back after three weeks and said he was sorry and would really like to see me get married. What do I do? My FH says he doesn’t care, but I have this idea that he thinks my ex might screw up our wedding!!! Any advice?
Post # 3
I dont care how good of friends you are with your ex…Definitely do not invite him to your wedding. Even if your FH liked him… just not a good idea… this is youre new life with your new man…
Post # 4
Do not invite this guy. Period.
Post # 5
I personally wouldn’t invite him to the wedding, as it is a time for you and your Fiance to start your life together
Post # 6
Personally, I think you owe it to your FH to distance yourself from your ex-bf. Even though your FH may say that he doesn’t care, I’m pretty sure that EVERY guy hates his girl’s ex-boyfriends.
You can limit the drama in your life by letting go of the ex-bf. That’s just my opinion.
Post # 7
Sounds like he still has some hang ups about the past. It’s over with him…. don’t invite him, it will cause problems at some point (if not at the wedding, then down the road).
Post # 8
I understand that sometimes it’s hard to lose the friendships that we create while dating someone, but I’ve found through past experiences that it’s usually best to keep ex’s at a pretty far distance to avoid issues.
Your ex’s reaction to you telling him you’re engaged should tell you a lot. Obviously he hasn’t moved on like you have, and perhaps distancing the friendship would be best for your realtionship with your Fiance, as well as for your ex’s well being in moving on.
But that’s just my experience. You have to do what’s right for you and your Fiance.
Post # 9
Thanks Ladies. I think your probably right.
Post # 10
I’m friends/friendly with my FI’s long term ex and she is part of our group of friends, it’s been over 4 years since they dated. Even in this circumstance everyone involved understands it would be inappropriate/awkward to invite her. Let your ex know that it’s great that he now supports your new relationship, but that it would be inappropriate to invite him given the past relationship he has with you. Considering his reaction of hanging up on you and refusing to talk to you it seems as though he has unresolved emotions that you will not want around during your wedding or perhaps at all…
Post # 11
The question you have to ask yourself is this: “Do I stress now not inviting my ex? or do I stress later at my wedding because of my ex?”
Bottom line, whenever you bring an ex into the mix you are leaving room for a disaster to occer. No matter how much you two have become “friends” again there will ALWAYS be that history. Do you really want to worry whether or not there will be an awkward moment at your wedding?
Post # 12
first of all why would you invite your ex to your wedding? In my opinion exes should stay gone. I don’t care if you’re friends – of course your fiance doesnt like him! If you’re still considering the ex or even the idea of dating, moving forward with a wedding and marriage are not the healthy thing to do. I could cut the ex out of your life, atleast wedding plans. If you want to keep things civil and nice just let him know your intensions and keep it brief. Make him an aquatience not a good friend since that’s obiously causing drama or tension. Who’s more important in your life – Fiance or ex?
Post # 13
Why give potential to unnecessary drama on you and your fiance’s special day? Your fiance’s feelings (even if he pretends it’s ok) trump the ex’s, so don’t invite him.
Post # 14
Yeah I mean another way to think about it, how would you feel if you were in your fiance’s shoes? My Fiance is still mildly friends with his exs, but I really wouldn’t want them at my wedding. It’s just too awkward.
Post # 15
Never EVER invite an ex to your wedding, EVER.
Post # 16
If your ex’s first reaction was to hang up on you upon hearing of your impeding nuptuals, DO NOT INVITE HIM! My personal opinion, but I would think that on your wedding day, you would only want the people who are completely supportive of you to be a part of your big day.