(Closed) FOCCUS

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee

We were happy to take our test and discuss it. We did spend time talking with our priest about how we had discussed most/all of the issues presented already but often interpreted questions differently or simply gave the same answers that worked for us, but were not the “suggested” answers. In the end, it was well worth our time and we requested a copy of the results to keep and discuss – or laugh over in twenty years!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was excited yet a little nervous. We just took the test 2 weeks ago and went over our results with the Deacon last week. I think it actually raised very good points and started conversations that needed to be started but also confirmed a lot of our compatibility. He sent us home with a copy of the test and we circled all the questions that we answered differently on. This definitely helps with keeping the discussion going so that we can come to common ground on the differences. Overall, I’m so glad we did it and think everyone should go through something like this!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m excited too!  I kind of can’t wait for PreCana class, although if it’s boring it’s going to be a long 8 hours.  Did you guys take the test at your class?  Or take it before so that you could get the results at the class?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We took the test last weekend, before our PreCana classes. I was not really nervous for our answers or anything like that, more so what happens if our answers aren’t the “church’s answers”. We were also pretty much just getting to meet our new priest at the same time, so I was a bit nervous for that, too. 

Fiance and I actually were snickering at some of the questions on the test. (It started on the very first page: How long have you been together…. answer in MONTHS?! Get out the calculator!!) Writing the thing really wasn’t stressful at all. But we’d pretty much talked about everything on there already.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I was kinda bummed that we didn’t have to do one.  We did our Pre-Marriage course  here in Ireland and my priest at home told my mom he would send the FOCCUS to us to complete and send back to him but then he changed his mind. I guess it was okay because it was in the midst of all the wedding craziness but I would have liked to see what it said…and what it would have said about us!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@AnamCara: The FOCCUS test is interesting.  Sometimes it asks questions you would assume (“I would like to have children” or “My future spouse and I agree regarding how to manage our finances”) and sometimes the questions are out of left field (“I am concerned that my future spouse is a homosexual” or “I feel comfortable seeing my future spouse naked”).

 

@LittleLynx:  The way I’ve seen the test scored is that the priest/deacon sends the answersheets off to the diocese, someone at the diocese runs them, and it produces a “compatability” chart (i.e. 100% match on religous issues, 97% match on financial issues, 75% match on sexuality issues, etc) that is sent back along with mismatched answers.  So while it’s possible that someone could look over every answer to see if you marked something contrary to Church teaching (like about having kids), practically I don’t think anyone would look unless you answered differently. 

 

 

 

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@CoffeeHound: Actually there was a “right” answer although I remember one of the “right answers was about not having conflicts or somthing like that. The priest said even though there are the “right” answers that the Church has suggested and are appropriate for some questions (raising your children Catholic) there are a couple questions that are unrealistic and the priest was glad to see that we were seeing things more realisticly and answered honestly.

 

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@kate6214: I think they technically call them “preferred” or “better” answers.. but ya… essentially.. “right” ones 🙂

We loved our test too. It was fun, I hadn’t been that confident in front of a scantron in years! lol. We had fun after discussing it and laughing at some things as well as discussing deeper others. 

Post # 12
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@KLP2010: That’s interesting.  I’ve seen the reports that come back from our diocese and they don’t indicate right/wrong or “preferred” answers.  Maybe it just varies.

Though it makes sense. If someone marks that they aren’t comfortable with the promises made to the Catholic Church, you’d want to know that and address them (though I know for a fact that my Darling Husband marked that “no” and it was never brought up).

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@CoffeeHound: It’s kind of like, “I am comfortable praying with my future spouse, yes, no, or unsure.” Of course, the “preferred” answer is “Yes.”

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

Is the FOCCUS test unique to catholics?  Is there a way to obtain the test online somewhere?  Or a similar one?

Post # 15
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350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@nighthawk: I searched for it once and couldn’t find it online.  It’s not exclusive to Catholics.  FOCCUS is a test written by some psychiatrists in 1997.  It’s put out by FOCCUS, Inc, an NPO.  The Catholic Church is the biggest user and has it’s own edition (with some included Catholic questions) but it’s not the only user.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The foccus test was wonderful for us.  It helped us dialogue and work things out.  Often communication is one thing that we overlook… the foccus test and discussions thereafter really helped.

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