(Closed) Frenemies

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3104 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

They’re not your friends. This is nonsense drama. If you don’t like them don’t call them friends & don’t make space for them in your life. It’s that simple. 

Post # 4
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

I had a frienemy for about two years that I finally just stopped talking to. She was a coworker, which made it more difficult to do, but I decided enough was enough and finally let go – and am so better off for it. Don’t let toxic people into your life.

Post # 5
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@lookingglass:  Doesn’t sound like something a friend would do.

The way I see it, you have a choice. Either suck it up and invite people you aren’t really friends with, or elope/have something small with only the people you truly care about. To me it’s a no brainer which one I’d choose (elope).

I have a frenemy at work.. it sucks but I am stuck with her since it’s my job. I know that friendship politics aren’t easy, but since it’s your wedding, you DO have a choice.

Post # 8
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116 posts
Blushing bee

I invite people that I know are my friends and are important for me. I only want those I care for on our day, which I’ld say is reasonable and I think the majority here thinks a like.

Just cut those people off if it’s that bad, life is too short to be lingering in negative relationships. Make room for new ones and improve the ones you know you want to maintain and keep!

Post # 10
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1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lookingglass:  The nonsense does go away eventually.  When you start getting further along in your life, you will realize that you just don’t have time for people who aren’t 100% loyal to you.  I remember having frenemies when I was younger.  Fast forward to now and I don’t even have enough time for my real friends, nevermind ones I would have to pretend to play nice with!

Post # 11
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116 posts
Blushing bee

@lookingglass:  Who says you have to do this? And do you want to go to her wedding? Are you in eachother’s bridal party? Btw I am sorry for your MOH’s divorce.

I second @rubybride718’s reply!

Post # 13
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116 posts
Blushing bee

@lookingglass:  I am currently not in that situation right now, but I have been before so I can understand where you are coming from, and it is not easy. It is frustrating, and yes you will probably need to be the “nice” one to keep the peace and not cause further more drama. In the long run, your good friend will be worth it. That’s how I felt when I was faced with a similar situation as you. The other two girls are not even in the same circle anymore as I understand it. But my “Good” friend still is and we are still close friends. You will just have to suck this up. 🙁

Post # 14
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1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had frenemies in my bridal party too… they weren’t always that way, we were actually all best friends through college but post-grad drama brought alliegences and splits and gossip and just such bad vibes… 

I kept them in my bridal party but we haven’t spoke since the wedding and one even deleted me on fb! Now everytime I look at the bridal party photos with them in it, I cringe!

i would kick them out now, before your photos are ruined forever.

Rid your life of them and be strong! You’ll thank yourself and your Darling Husband will probably thankyou too For creating a drama-free newlywed life for yourselves.

Post # 16
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

and this is exactly why I have 1 friend. Because having “friends” isn’t the same has having a real near and dear friend that no matter what will stick by you and that you will still be laughing with when you’re 80.

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