Post # 1
I’m sitting here in my little cube, minding my own business, when I start hearing lots of “Congratulations!” and one girl saying “Thank you!” multiple times.
Obviously I can’t be 100% sure yet, but I’m sure you’re all thinking what I am–she got engaged this weekend. I don’t want to rain on anyone’s parade, but this girl is 5 years younger than me, been with her guy less than half the time I’ve been with mine, and I’m her boss. I’m just feeling icky and jealous and sad and I need to vent because I’m going to have to be happy and congratulatory, and as the boss help put together some kind of celebration.
I do want to stress that I am happy for HER, but just feeling wistful about my own relationship.
Post # 3
Coworker engagements seem to be the most awkward part of waiting-at least for me.
Try to focus on the fact that, one day, that will be you receiving all those congratulations, and she’ll probably be jealous of you.
Post # 4
Bleh, sorry for cubucal congrats getting you down. As a good boss, go buy a congrats cake – make it chocolate and enjoy the sertonin as you eat it – maybe it can lit your spirits. 🙂 I’ve found that even though the green-eyed monster has struck me badly this last year with about 8 couples I know getting engaged and/or married, helping out with plans for the brides to be has somehow helped me with my awkward feelings, and helped me actually be happy for them.
Post # 5
I agree with Isilme…. enjoy the cake! and helping the others with their plans can make you feel better. I’m going thru the same thing at work, 4 people in two weeks got engaged, and talking to the one girl about her plans has actually been fun.
Post # 6
Ugh that’s the worst. It’s so so hard to keep the green eyed monster at bay when it comes to co-workers getting engaged, especially when they’re younger than you! Take a couple deep breaths and remember that this memory will be a figment of your imagination when it comes time that you get your proposal!
Post # 7
Aw, I’m sorry. I agree with Isilme’s cake idea. Eat it up!
I don’t have to deal with engagements at work….I’m the only one NOT married! *grumble,grumble*
Post # 8
*hugs* go get that cake and let it take you to bliss~
Post # 9
@MsMamaBear: Me too Mama Bear, but I’m also the youngest here (22), so that’s not too far fetched!
I agree with the cake idea, everyone loves cake! Be gracious and congratulatory. Your time will come and you’ll remember those who weren’t happy for you. Don’t be that Debby Downer for her. 🙂
Post # 10
Sleepingbeauty- I wish I was the youngest! (29) Oh, well. *shrugs*
Post # 11
I’m feeling you girlfriend! A girl I work with is soooo sweet….getting married in March. I hear wedding, wedding, wedding. Another good friend got engaged in December. Engaged to a millionnaire. Big ol’ ring. She doesn’t even work anymore and pretends she’s looking for a job, for whatever reason. I am happy for her, and she deserves all the happiness in the world FOR SURE, but it’s really hard. They’ve dated 5 months less than me and SO.
It’s hard, and you have to pretend and not show your jealousy. I think any form of serotonin would be a good think. Chocolate, pharmaceuticals, whatever it takes. I’m thinking Xanax…but that’s not serotonin is it?
Wine? Champgagne? A day at the spa…those are good rememdies.
Me, I’m not even sure my SO will ever want to get married. I’m sure he loves me, I’m sure he wants to be with me forever (said so), but not sure if he’ll ever get married again. BAD BAD BAD first time experience. I’m not even really “waiting” like most of the women on here…
Just think, when it does happen, you’ll be the one saying “oh, thank you thank you very much.”
Post # 12
@MsMamaBear: That’s my age too!
Even worse I think is when I told my boss that she was engaged and we should plan some cake or a happy hour or something and he said: “Oh, I expected [this other girl] to be next.” I guess no one expects me–the 29 year old with the 6 year boyfriend!
(To be fair, my boss and I are actually pretty close and we’ve already had the “why hasn’t he proposed” talk so he may have been trying to be sensitive…but still!)
Thanks for the advice and hugs though ladies! I think I just really needed to spew my bad thoughts out somewhere. I’m feeling pretty good now, and I congratulated her, and already got the plans for a celebration underway. I think I just need a good run and some wine so that all is right with the world and I don’t end up bringing this up to the Boyfriend or Best Friend. 🙂
Post # 13
Well, if it makes you feel any better (not that it will, but it might make you chuckle a little). This past August my school district had its opening rally with all the staff. Another girl and I had both been there a year and have the same first name and last names that both start with G. At the opening rally, our principal announced to the 500 employees that she had gotten engaged the night before. Not only had they only been dating 1 year (3 1/2 for me), but I spent the next 3 days explaining to people from other buildings who didn’t know us well that I wasn’t engaged, no they could not see the ring, no we hadn’t set a date, and well, saying it’s about time isn’t exactly appropriate.
**hugs…I feel your pain.***
Post # 14
I know the feeling. My boyfriend’s sister proposed after 9 months. They have been dating far less than my bf and I have. And they are getting married in July. And they have money for a nice wedding even on short notice.
Post # 15
Awww 🙁 That sucks! Well, it’s good for her, but you know what I mean!
Post # 16
*hugs* my coworker got engaged and married last year and it sucked having to hear about every detail. The day she told me she was engaged, I was on the verge of tears since they had been together less than half the time me and my bf have and they are younger than us. I’m pretty much the only one not married at my work and people are always asking me when we’re getting engaged. It sucks and I can only hope that it happens for me soon so they can quit bugging so much.