(Closed) Hand-Fasting

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well not necessarily, if you wanted you could, maybe, bind your left hands together, keepingthe fabric below ring-point. Then when you’ve all done you can unbind.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

After the vows, in lieu of a unity candle.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re doing it after the vows and ring exchange… We’re just going to have our hands tied together while the officiant reads the “wording” then he’ll untie us.

Mind if I ask what wording you’re using for it? I’ve only found one version online…

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are considering doing this too. I think one option is that it’s the last thing that happens in the ceremony. The ring exchange happens before the hand fasting. As soon as I find out more details, I will post again.

Your officiant may know the answer also.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

EDIT: We’re actually doing it after the “Signing of the Registry”. In Canada, we sign the marriage license in front of the guests.

So we’re doing the vows, ring exchange, signing, then the hand fastening.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I have been told that handfasting should take place either at the beginning or end of the ceremony.  Our is immediately after the exchange of vows.  Hope that helps!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had our hands bound from the beginning of the vows until after the exchange of the rings.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Good question!

We have been tossing ideas back and forth as to when the best time, most practical place in the ceremony will be.

We are thinking to do it after personal vows, possibly in place of ring exchange, or the ring exchange will follow, we have not fully decided yet. I would like to keep our hands fasted for a duration of the reception (as we plan/hope for the reception to follow immediately & would also like to include the handfasting in some of our photos) but as Sunshine23 mentioned, in Canada you sign the marriage license in front of the guests, so I am not entirely sure how easy it would be to sign with our hands bound!

Hmm.. this needs more consideration.

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

http://www.greentree.com.au/culture_celtic.html

This is the site of my celebrant.  He is in Australia, and specialises in celtic ceremonies.

My order of ceremony will basically be

– Ring washing and blessing

– ring exchange

– hand fasting (I will be having the traditional hand fasting vows here)

– vows (and then here are vows we have written for each other, which will also take care of the legal requirements of Aussie vows)

– then after we are pronounced married, we sign the register in front of the guests and then thats the end of the ceremony

Hope this helps

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

We are debating doing it at the beginning, with my father doing the wrapping to symbolize me leaving his hands and going into the care and protection of my spouse.  The officiant will do some of the word exchanges right there too.

It depends on what you want to do.  Ancient folk used to use a handfasting because there wasn’t always a priest in town.  The local officiant would do a handfasting and then when the traveling priest made their way to town, the priest would make the marriage official – part of where the year and a day bit came from.

I think if you find a spot that has meaning to you, and you explain it well to your guests, all will be well! 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

We are debating doing it at the beginning, with my father doing the wrapping to symbolize me leaving his hands and going into the care and protection of my spouse.  The officiant will do some of the word exchanges right there too.

It depends on what you want to do.  Ancient folk used to use a handfasting because there wasn’t always a priest in town.  The local officiant would do a handfasting and then when the traveling priest made their way to town, the priest would make the marriage official – part of where the year and a day bit came from.

I think if you find a spot that has meaning to you, and you explain it well to your guests, all will be well! 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

We had a very short ceremony too.  We did the handfasting right after the ring exchange as an extension of the vows.  It made for cute photos (because you’re already wearing your rings).  If you say the handfasting vows as the minister ties the knot, then it’ll last a little longer, but it’s only a minute or two to do handfasting.  (But the rings don’t take that long either.)  Then our minister removed the knot and put it aside to close the ceremony.

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