- 7 years ago
I’ve been happily married to my husband for over a decade. Second marriage for both; kids from both marriages; one from our union. His youngest daughter is getting married and the wedding is being paid for by her mom, his parents and us. Her dad and I adore the person she is marrying. For a number of years the bride had a stressful relationship with her mother and not speak to her for three years. During the time she did not speak to her mother she and her boyfriend spent a lot of time with us and we had fun together. I never liked the fact she had such a strained relationship with her mother and encouraged her to rebuild the relationship. Much to our relief she reconciled with her mother after her engagement and they have become quite close. In the last year her dad got a new job which requires him to work across the country, he’s home two weekends a month.
The relationship with her step-siblings has never been good so she is not inviting them to their wedding. The kids are relieved they weren’t invited. It eases the stress of them sending a decline and hurting the brides feelings or offending her. About 9 months ago she had a falling out with her sister and out of spite she is not inviting her to the wedding (who at one point was to be her MOH). I’ve discussed this with her sister and she’s really hurting over the no invite. Her father is pretty upset by this exclusion and told the bride she is being unreasonable and a bit selfish. Recently, one of the step-siblings was rude to the bride. I don’t know what went on between them and and I had nothing to do with it. I heard about what went on through my husband. Feeling bad about what happened I sent an apology to the bride and have attempted to make amends. She will not take my calls and emails go unanswered. She is not willing to meet with me and her dad but she is asking when she will receive the money from us for the wedding.
I was invited (as per the RSVP) but after this most recent argument I found out that I am no longer invited to the wedding. The wedding is being held at an expensive resort that is six hours from our home. We have already paid for our lodging (non-refundable) in one of their suites. My husband and I were looking forward to not only celebrating her wedding but also spending a rare weekend together. Considering I was there for her in the past I am a bit hurt over being ‘uninvited’. I haven’t told my husband how I feel, only that the status of my invitation has changed. My husband is angry with the bride over her spiteful and mean behavior. He’s not willing to attend if I’m not invited and is no longer willing to help pay for the wedding. How can this be fixed?