Post # 62

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Buzzing Beekeeper
@MrsPaperFlowers: Why would you
need it? Don’t you have a phone?
Post # 63

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Bumble bee
@Hyperventilate: Just in case.. I do have my own phone, but if my phone is dead, I’d like to be able to access his easily
Post # 64

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Buzzing Beekeeper
@MrsPaperFlowers: To each their own I suppose. It isn’t hard to ask him to call/look something up for you.
If my husband wanted to know any of my locks for “just in case” I’d be incredibly suspicious. I have nothing to hide, but if he suddenly decided that he needed that code, I’d be less than willing to give it to him.
Post # 65

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Bumble bee
@Hyperventilate: You wouldn’t be suspicious if he suddenly started looking his phone out of the blue?
Post # 66

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Buzzing Beekeeper
@MrsPaperFlowers: Nope, because I trust him, and he has done similar behaviors (locks at least.)
I don’t use his phone. The only exception was when we were driving to Oklahoma and he asked me to look up a hotel. His phone was locked. I asked why he locked it, and he gave me a reasonable answer (He lock it for work.)
Good enough for me. I trust him to not cheat on me, and this was well over a year ago and I highly doubt he’s cheating on me now. I have no need to use his phone — Mine works perfectly well and I charge it every night. If I need to use his phone, I will ask.
Post # 67

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Bumble bee
@Hyperventilate: But he HAS no reason to lock it, he never has had a reason.. I don’t want to snoop through his crap, like I said, I don’t care.. I more or less want the info so that if my phone is dead (like it was this weekend), and I need to use it, I don’t want to have to pester him to unlock it.. Also, if he is having a Crohn’s attack, he’s not in much of a mood to talk, and I don’t have his Dr’s info. I don’t want it for stupid reasons, I want it for logical ones, not to snoop.. Like I said. I don’t touch his phone like .. ever.. mine was dead because I was taking pictures and we were camping, I didn’t have easy access to a charger until that evening.
Post # 68

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Buzzing Beekeeper
@MrsPaperFlowers: Like I said, to each their own. My husband has no reason to lock his outside of work, but he does. I don’t know his lock password, and I don’t care to. Wouldn’t it be a good idea to keep his doctor’s information somewhere outside of a phone anyway? Not attempting to criticise how you live, but that’s how I would handle it especially for these situations. I have my doctor’s information written on a slip in my wallet.
If this is what you want to do, then do it. But if I were in your SO’s position, I’d be suspicious of a “Just in case!”
Post # 69

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Busy bee
@MrsPaperFlowers: I’m sorry–but I don’t buy that. If you have a phone, you don’t need to use his. If you want access to his phone that regularly, you clearly do want to monitor his calls or texts. Otherwise, you’d just be asking for information off the phone, not access to the phone itself.
Now, if you truly do just need his doctor’s phone numbers, that’s a separate issue with a very simple solution: ask for those emergency numbers, and make a list of them (along with your emergency numbers) and place them somewhere you both can find them. My mother always kept them posted on the inside of the kitchen cabinets nearest to the phone–so that’s what we do. I agree that you should have those written somewhere else anyway, just in case of emergency.
However, that’s still not a reason to need to look at his phone on a regular basis. Sorry. If I were your man, and you asked me that, I’d be totally concerned WHY you were asking it.