(Closed) Lust

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hmmm that’s a hard one…All I can say is, just keep thinking about the wedding and how much love and passion you two will expirence that night! 🙂

Post # 4
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476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Only hold hands til then? I seriously am at a loss here, I agree you just have to keep your eye on the prize and think about how amazing your wedding night will be.

I mean, I’ve held off on sex for 28 years…. but not the other stuff. I give you guys major KUDOS!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Thats about all you can do is to continue to think about your upcoming wedding night.  10 months is a long time though! 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

My suggestion is to avoid instances where you can get in that situation.  Like as soon as it feels too cozy, get up and get a drink, go to the bathroom, suggest picking a movie.  Kudos on your respect for each other!

Post # 7
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455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have a ridiculous suggestion that you’d think was a joke BUT.  My friend Heather wore a one piece bathing suit under he clothes every time she was with her Fiance.  Not really sexy feeling nor is it easy access.. So? Bathing suit.  I think she only did it for the last 3 months of their engagement though. Almost a year may be excessive… but hey! Advice!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@sahsabahs:Funny, but I can see how it could work! that or ugly, hard to get out of, spanx… You would have to make a conscious decision to get out of these, so there would be no “spur of the moment” excuse.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Go on the birth control pill??? It certainly kills my sex drive =]

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Avoid seeing him during ovulation time… sex drive skyrockets during these days!

Post # 11
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167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ejs4y8: Yeah that! I’m on Yaz and have NO sex drive now… was pretty “normal” before.

Post # 12
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My fiance and I lived in different cities until we got married. I found that helped a lot. 🙂

 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You should do some research on endometriosis….birth control is the ONE thing that saves your fertility if you have it. The more you bleed, the more scar tissue you develop.

Endometriosis. I haz it =]. I’ve had a handful of surgeries and been on medications since i was 19 to protect my fertility, so if you have any questions about it, lemme know. You’ll only know if you have it if you have a Dr. check you (via a laparoscopic procedure)….the “signs” aren’t indicative of how serious it could be, but i know it’s hereditary so it’s really worth seeing a doctor to protect yourself.

Endometriosis isn’t usually caught until mid to late 20’s…when women try to get pregnant and can’t.

Also, endometriosis can cause dyspareunia (painful sex) and it can develop over time and flare up occassionally, so if you haven’t had sex in awhile and it pops up and doesn’t go away no matter what, you’ll want to see a doctor for a D&C possibly (vaginal scraping, not an abortion) to help alleviate any discomfort.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@Jenny09jf:I know many say that the pill kills the sex drive… It probably depends on the individuals and on the type of pill you take… I’ve been on it for years now and my sex drive is very high.. Unless it means I would be out of control if I wasn’t on it?? Ha!

But I do understand that you don’t want to get on it, given your family’s history. Why risk it when there are other, non chemical ways to deal with it?

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