Post # 1
I’ve been engaged then unengaged to my FI 3 times in the past 6 years. It’s a little bit of a family joke. I received a BFP in February and we decided to go ahead and get hitched. When I started planning in earnest and gushed to my relatives I received responses like “For real this time?” and “How long is this going to last?” Regardless, I carried on with a smile on my face. FI wanted an intimate wedding on the beach with just our parents and sisters. I couldn’t see getting married with out my grandpa. My mother and father couldn’t see watching their daughter get married without their brothers and sisters in attendance. My MIL couldn’t see watching her son get married without her brothers and sister in attendance. Long story short my intimate beach wedding has turned into a 170 person monster. Invitations sent to people who ” wouldn’t be attending but should be invited for courtesy” were accepted with not only plus ones but plus 3s and 4s. We’ve now exceeded the maximum occupancy for our venue and are scrambling to find another.I can’t sleep. On top of the normal first time mommy worries I also stay up late at night worrying about this wedding and how I will get everything to turn out ok. At this point, I don’t want to continue planning this circus and I’m embarrassed that I even let it get this crazy. Several family members have booked hotel rooms and flights.
What do you guys think? Should I suck it up and scramble for a new venue? or should I call it off and just have a few people on the beach.
The wedding date is July 26.
Post # 3
You shouldn’t allow these +3s and 4s. You’ve already been more than generous by inviting all these aunts and uncles! They’re being rude by inviting extra people.
Call the people (or have someone else do it) who have invited extra guests and tell them they can’t bring all these other people. You don’t need to find a new venue for people you didn’t even invite.
Post # 4
Your wedding is in a month and you’re thinking of switching venues? No way. Put your foot down about the extra guests.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
Whatever it is you decide to do, you need to do it quick.
Post # 6
I’d call the people with more than +1 and politely explain that you do not have the capacity for those extra guests. And do it fast. Don’t change your venue now, that’s just ridiculous and adds unnecessary stress.
Post # 7
I agree with the other ladies. The uninvited guests who got RSVP’ed need to be cut. I would tell these people that you were planning an intimate wedding that has now expanded past the capacity of the venue.
I also wanted to be married with 10 people on a beach…. I feel lucky reading your post. My wedding only expanded to about 50 people .
Post # 8
@KismetBuckley: Thank you so much! I felt like an ogre telling people that they can’t attend but I’ve started calling and most were understanding. There are some hurt feelings but you can’t please everyone.
Post # 9
@KismetBuckley: Exactly, you can’t please everyone! I’m glad you’ve started making the calls, it will be a big weight off your shoulders. Hopefully you can get everything sorted out so that you can actually enjoy your wedding day 🙂 Congrats on your BFP!