(Closed) Over-Inviting

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Our guest list went over the number we originally planned on inviting. Should we:
    Cut people before the invites go out : (8 votes)
    40 %
    Leave the list as is. You're only over by about 50 and the reception can accomodate more. : (9 votes)
    45 %
    Send out a second set of invites later to people who didn't make the first list if others can't come : (3 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @Sharebear:  Well what were your reasons for shooting for 150?  Those are the “risks” you take by going over that amount.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Do you have a limit on your venue or budget?  How many guests aren’t coming for sure?  63 is a lot to be over by.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @Sharebear:  We ALSO went over the number of people we thought we were going to invite and once you got RSVPs back it was still more but we were fine with it.  We had some wiggle room in our budget tho, I would never advise that you assume a certain number are going to RSVP no – but at least your venue has the room for it!

    P.S. I just noticed your username and love it!

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Not everyone will attend. You should be fine. We invited 210 and had about 170 attend with like 5 no shows the day of. *sigh*.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Let me ask you this…would you be financially okay if all 213 responded yes?

    If not, do not invite them all.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Sharebear: I think it’s something like 70-80% of people will attend.  So I think you would be ok to invite 213 (assuming you can pay for them if 210 do show up) and assume that 170 or so will come.  You should be fine.  If you absolutely couldn’t pay for them though, I wouldn’t invite that many.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    It sounds like it’s not a huge problem if you get more than 150, you have room and of course it will be more expensive, so if you can afford it comfortably still and you want all the people then I think you’re safe to invite. 

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Can you afford 213 people if they all show up?  If not, cut the list.  It’s dangerous to invite more than 10% over your budget.

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