Post # 1
I am super-jazzed to become Mrs.M – I can’t wait to take on my new last name. We are 15 months away from our wedding day. We are leaning towards a Southern Caribbean cruise for the honeymoon. I really want to use my new name tight away. Does anyone have info on changing your name: when to do it / best practices? Will I have to use my maiden name on my travel documents until we return from the trip or is there a way to get this all buttoned up ahead of time?
Post # 3
If you are leaving for your honeymoon right after your wedding, you’ll need to make sure you tickets and all of your travel documents are in your maiden name. Because in order to change everything, you need your marriage certificate, which you get after you get married. I think your officiant actually has to send in the paperwork, and then they mail it to you. Then you need to take that and start getting all of your IDs changed, like your license and your passport. Your passport will definitely take a few weeks to get back, so you won’t be able to change it before you leave.
However, just make sure that all of the hotel reservations are in your husband’s name. That way the hotel staff will call you Mr. and Mrs. HusbandsLastName throughout the trip. If you make it in your name, they will just assume that is your new last name, and they will be calling you guys Mr. and Mrs. YourMaiden name the whole trip! 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks for the tips! This makes total sense!
We are getting married by a relative who is getting a one day license to marry us. I’m guessing the paperwork will be finished and sent in by either me or the relative. We plan on thoroughly researching that process for our state and the county & town in which we are getting married – I don’t want any mess ups for that stuff.
I’ll make sure my FH books all the accommodations and tickets. He usually does anyhow.
Post # 5
Unfortunately it takes a while to change your name. As BeachBride said you have to wait until you get your marriage certificate back to even begin. For us this was 1 week after the wedding.
Once that is done then the first then you go do is change your name at Social Security, a long drawn out process, sitting there waiting and then they have to send you your card (another couple of weeks). If you get a certified copy of your marriage liscence you might be able to send off for a new passport but you have to send you old passport in and it like applying for a new passport so I believe the wait is up to 8 weeks! From there on out somethings take the social security card or the marriage certificate or both to settle, this is everything from drivers liscences to bank accounts.
My husband and I leave for Japan in 2 weeks (for our honeymoon) and we’ve been married since early February and I still am waiting for my social security card!
Unfortunately if you are planning your honeymoon for right after the wedding you will be traveling under your maiden name. Make sure all of your reservations are made accordingly. With any luck your will be able to use your new last name on your 1 year anniversary trip 😉 Good Luck!
Post # 6
it’s not likely you’ll be able to use your new name, officially, for your travel stuff.
We are reserving everything under fi’s name since mine won’t be changed yet. Fi said he made sure to tell all the hotels we reserved that it was our honeymoon so they will refer to us as Mr. and Mrs.
Post # 7
My passport I just got is under my uber long hyphenated last name. Bleech.
Post # 8
I wanted to also travel with the Misters last name BUT then I researched changing my name and everyuthing else and found out that I would not have it done in time. Our airplane and cruise tickets would all have to be with my new last name yet unfortunately we are planning the honeymoon now 7 months prior to the wedding.
Post # 9
I really love my passport, I’m very attached too each stamp. Do I have to give it up when I change my name? 🙁
Post # 10
You send your passport in for a new one but they return the old one with a hole punched in it. You will get to keep all of your stamps, just not all in one book 😉
Post # 11
It takes about a week, if your officiant sends in the paperwork promptly (and if it’s all filled out correctly) for you to be able to get an official copy of your marriage certificate from the county clerk’s office. Some states send you one automatically; in some places you have to go in and request one (and there is a fee). Then you have to send in your old passport with the official marriage certificate (and new passport photos) and request a new one. For an extra fee you can get expedited processing – but essentially you’re requesting a new passport, so unless you request the expedited processing it takes 6 – 8 weeks. (Even with expedited processing I think it takes about a month.) Also, if you’ve had your existing passport longer than a year, you pay the fee for a new passport. (There’s a reduced fee if you’ve had it less than a year.)
Post # 12
There is sort of a work-around, if it’s really that important to you. You can change your name before the marriage, by petitioning the court. Where I live a legal name change (other than because of marriage or divorce) costs about $70. You could actually change your name before the marriage, and then use the court documents to change all your ID before you have the marriage certificate. More money, and more trouble, but if you really, really want to go on your honeymoon with your new name on your passport, it is a way to make it so.
Post # 13
I suggest you do all of that after you come back. My co-worker booked her honeymoon flight using her maiden name. For circumstances beyond her control, she had to postpone the honeymoon for eight months. By then, she had changed all her documents including the passport. When they got to the airport, they almost didn’t let her in the airplane because the last name in the documents did not match. Since they arrived at the airport more than two hours before the plane was supposed to leave, she had time to resolve the issue. With rules becoming more and more strict, I think it’s not worth the headache to do that ahead of time.