Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs asked me what I want for my bridal shower. Truthfully, Fiance and I don’t need many gifts but I’d still like to have a fun celebration with my friends and family before the wedding.
I suggested renting out the roof of our condo building for a fun potluck party. Instead of gifts, guests would bring a dish or a drink and the recipe so that I can get some ideas of what to cook for my new husband! Then, afterwards, we’d go out dancing somewhere nearby. So, it would be a combo shower/bachelorette.
I thought it was a great idea, until I googled “potluck shower” to get tips to forward on to my Maid/Matron of Honor. I saw a ton of comments saying a potluck shower was tacky. Is it? Have any of you bees had or been to one?
Post # 3
@snd485: You sound so sweet so I am not going to be as blunt as I usually would be, lol. When someone is hosting an event, it is rude to ask guests to provide food for said event. It would be like you having your wedding but telling guests to bring their own beer and dessert. Whatever the hosts can afford to provide is what should be there. I’d happily buy you a gift or give you cash but I would not want to be cooking/baking for someone else’s party. I can always write a cheque, but I can’t always guarantee I will have time to prepare food for lots of people.
Post # 4
@snd485: If the dish and recipe is supposed to be the gift, then I would think it ok. I think it’d be kind of fun actually! But you’d have to know your guests. Some might frown upon it because it would be like asking your guests to help host your event. But I imagine most people would be cool about it though. I think it would only be tacky if you asked them to bring a dish AND a gift.
Post # 5
I went to a recipe/kitchen-themed shower and the hostess (bride’s sister/MOH I think) contacted a few of the guests to ask if they could prepare their signature dishes ahead of time. It was less like a picnic and more like a hosted event.
Post # 6
In my circle potlucks are very common, I had three showers and two of them were potluck desserts! I also know a couple who did what you’re thinking of, and everyone loved it. I think it just depends on the people you know though, not everyone is open to that kind of thing.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
I really like the idea of a recipe shower, but the potluck portion will really depend on the people you’re inviting. You could always just have guests bring their favorite recipe, either printed out or written on matching recipe cards, depending on how much planning/prep work the BMs want to put into it.
Post # 8
Personally I think it’s a little tacky. If it’s obvious your doing a cheap shower/bachelorette party than I think most will be more likely to accept it. It also depends on the type of people that you are inviting.
Edit:With that being said if I ever get invited to one I would still probably go.
Post # 9
Just an update. I’d already told Maid/Matron of Honor about my potluck idea and she’d started planning so I just went with it…AND the shower was a blast!!!
In leiu of gifts, guests brought a dish or a drink to share (along with the recipe for my recipe box). Most of the guests attended – 20 of the 25 invited. My Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man decorated our rooftop deck so beautifully and came up with some awesome games. Maid/Matron of Honor is super crafty and sewed cute aprons and wine cozies for the prizes for the winners of the games. My mom came from my hometown to surprise me the night before the shower and put together nice kitchen themed favors for all of the guests.
I had a great time!