(Closed) Pre-engaged

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Pre-engaged, practically engaged, someone once called him my “pre-fi” as in pre-fiance. What other names are there? Ones that say, “Hey, we are GOING to get married. That WILL happen. Once XYZ happens, you better save the date!” I find “boyfriend” doesn’t cover it.

Post # 4
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1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Haha, caught my interest! Relationship status on FB?!? Pre-engaged! LOL

At a friends party a few weekends ago I got kind of drunk ( LOL!) and kept introuducing my Boyfriend or Best Friend to everyone ( All of our friends that obviously already know him lol) as my almost fiance. Yup ( Insert foot in mouth.) Boyfriend told me the next morning that he will not serve me vodka infront of people again. He did say that it was very amusing but not so much for me the next day when my friend wrote it on my FB wall. LOL

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@FutureMrs.browneyes:  oh you poor thing. Thats what happened to me at a party a while ago. Some friend of a friend of a friend, who was a apparenly all interested in my relationship had the gaul to ask me “Why aren’t you guys married?” Not ‘when are you guys getting married’ but WHY NOT?!

Well I am a lady and didn’t want to start a fight so I eplained to her that we’re very happy, and were gaining our financial independance and blah blah blah…Bitch, why aint you married yet….with your two baby daddy having ass…

Anyway. Jello Shots came around and someone passed some Salvia around and next thing i know I am with my SO infront of our married friends (who were together less then a year before they got engaged) and started talking about marriage infront of them…while unbuttoning and rebuttoning my SO’s shirt….

*face palm* So embarassing. But that bitch got in my head.

So rule of thumb….If you are a lady in waiting and someone starts bringing up the Why’s of why you are not engaged yet…try to stay kinda sober….

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Sapphire-Dreamer:  Haha! I had to laugh! I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks waiting girls should stay sober lol!

 I think it’s so rude when girls ask..” why aren’t you married yet” I always want to say some snarky comment but refrain from doing so LOL.

 

Post # 7
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1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

To be honest, when I meet people who got married less time than I have been with my SO, I like to say in my head that we’ll last longer. Not that I ever wish divorce on people! But, I get pissy.

Post # 8
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146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@memo:  Ive done this too! :-X hehe!

 

When we moved to another state for my job and my SO was looking for a new job, my SOs mom said he should tell everyone he moved for his “fiance”, not his “gf”…it sounds more professional and less superficial/spontaneous…

…I didnt tell him, but this crushed me. We had been togther for years and she told him to lie about our status because his future employee may think it’s stupid? BAH! so, in general, he dont see anything like “pre-fi”. He doesnt get to sya th until there is a ring, haha!

Post # 9
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@awolfpaw:  I feel your pain. My SO’s boss calls me “wifey.” As in, “Is that your wifey calling?” He just uses it as a joke, but everyone in his office thinks my SO is married now! My SO actually called me “wifey” the other day and I told him “Hey. Only your boss gets to call me that.” I was only half kidding.

Post # 10
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2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@memo:  LOL  I never do that, never… *wink* 😉

I remember when SO referred to us as “pre-engaged”.  I loved it, lol…  Now, I wish we were ENGAGED! 😛

Post # 12
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@OneOfTheseDaysAlice:  haha, My Boyfriend or Best Friend did something like that over skype last night. We were chatting and he yawned so i was like “You tired there Mr Sleepy?” and we said “Little bit. How about you Mrs Sleepy?” so i said “Not Mrs yet!”… 

As for the pre-engaged thing, i think once yuo start having the serious talks about getting married, having kids etc and it doesnt seem hypothetical, then you can start thinking pre-enagaged. But i wish there was a better word than boyfriend. I feel like we’re 15 when i say boyfriend haha 

Post # 13
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3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I quote George Carlin: There’s too much use of this prefix pre. Place the turkey in a pre-heated oven .. it’s ridiculous! There are only two states an oven can be in: heated or unheated! XD

Post # 14
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9 posts
Newbee

When my FH & I were “pre engaged”, I was a little hurt that I had to call him boyfriend. As previously stated… 8th graders use the term boyfriend. It hardly sufficed bc FH were planning a future around eachother. I never told anyone we were pre engaged or that he was my pre fiance bc then I felt I would look needy. Lol. I called my boyfriend when he was my boyfriend & call him fiance now bc that’s what he is. I get to enjoy calling him my fiance now with a great story of the proposal behind it. I wouldn’t recommend anyone calling their boyfriend “pre fiancé” or “fiancé” until a proposal happens. My two cents!

Post # 15
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173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can see this as a helpful term I guess! 

Because honestly  I was never “waiting”. Right when we began our relationship, we had agreed that we wanted to marry within 2 years (and we did!). So while I WAS waiting for the proposal, right from the start we knew what we were heading towards!

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