(Closed) Prenups

posted 7 years ago in Legal
  • poll: Your Opinion on Pre-nups
    I have one/ am having one : (23 votes)
    16 %
    I do not have one/ am not having one : (116 votes)
    82 %
    Other (please explain below) : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We didn’t sign one, but I would have if my FI had felt strongly about it (I, on the other hand, have zero assets to protect, lol). I don’t think there’s anything “wrong” or “distrustful” about prenups. What did your priest have to say about them?

    Post # 4
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    5773 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think pre-nups are appropriate for some couples and don’t mean that you are entering the marriage expecting to divorce.

    Post # 7
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    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It was recommended to us because my fiance has a TON of student loans. I don’t think we’re going to get one, but I certainly wouldn’t think badly of anyone who does.

    Post # 8
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    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    We didn’t do a formal pre nup but we do have written down somewhere how we intend to split up our main property in the case of a break up (we also have an investment property but the note was written before we bought that).

    DH wanted a pre nup and I said I’d be happy to sign one as long as he did the leg work in getting in written up etc. He never bothered so *shrugs*. We have always been upfront about how we will split our assets because when we met he had 2 properties and I had nothing, and we both believe they are his and only his since I had nothing to do with it. Now we have joint assets it’s a bit different. His parents have struggled in their separation to deal with assets and DH was sued by an ex girlfriend over property matters. For us having seen people go through such awful things it’s important to be upfront and honest – splitting up would be bad enough without dealing with that as well. I would rather deal with it now, when we really love and respect each other, than wait for a break up when you are likely to be feeling much more bitter and upset about the whole thing. Although anytime we talk about it we always end up saying ‘let’s just not break up’ and having a cuddle.

    I disagree with the priest, I think a pre nup is sort of like marriage insurance. Having car insurance doesn’t mean you expect or want to have an accident. It just means you understand that sometimes bad things happen in life and when they do, it’s good to be prepared.

    Post # 9
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I plan on having one.  I totally agree with @mountain.bride that this is comparable to getting insurance!  You don’t expect, want, or wish for something tragic to happen, but you might as well cover your behind!

    Granted – I just graduated from law school and have seen the DISASTERS the come from not having such an agreement.  I would rather be safe than sorry.

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @emb610: Did you hear that from a lawyer? In many parts of the country, the other spouse has not responsibility for the debt after the divorce.

     

    I think there is nothing wrong with them, especially if you have kids from a previous relationship or you have a family business.

    Post # 11
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    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I just graduated law school and fiance just graduated grad school so all a prenup would do is make us depressed by realizing our total amount of debt and lack of assets. we are fully aware of it without the assistance of another legal document for me to draft so we are going without. i do think it is smart for couples that have assets.

    Post # 12
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    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We’re going to have one for a few reasons. A) To protect assets, and B) Because of FSS’s mother. We each have things to protect, and to protect each other from in a worst case scenario. We also had a cohabitation agreement when we moved in together for the same reasons.

    Post # 13
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    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @monitajb: Uh…sorta. I asked on expertlaw.com after doing a whole lot of googling. Probably not the most reliable source, but it was good enough for what we needed to know. My understanding is that in most cases his student loan debt wouldn’t fall on me, but there are some things that could make that be the case, like if he refinances (and I co-sign?). I don’t really understand all of that, to be honest. We’ll seek advice if we need to down the road.

    Post # 14
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    3295 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i havent signed one yet and im not for sure that we will even have one. fi is a union ironworker and has alot of money wrapped up in pension and annuities and i have some wrapped up in stocks… not to mention i bought my house before we even became engaged. i agree, it is like insurance that we will keep what is rightfully ours if something ever happened like that. i dont personally see a problem with them at all as long as both parties know all the terms and agree to them fully (ie are not just signing to make their fi or family happy)

    Post # 15
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would never have one.  I wouldn’t get married if I was planning on not staying together.

    Post # 16
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think there can be good reasons to do them, especially for older couples that have assets or children to protect. We don’t personally feel like we have any need.

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