Post # 1
Anyone receive re-gifts or old gifts that were sitting in someone’s attic for 10 years for wedding presents? Some of the gifts I received as wedding presents were re-gifts/old gifts. These were from people who attended the wedding. I could tell they were re-gifts or gifts they had sitting around. One gift was a pair of candle sticks in a yellowed box from 2002. The next was a very ugly vase that totally is not my taste and the third were 4 juice glasses and a pitcher (with chips and cracks in it, wrapped in bubble wrap) and placed in an old pasta box.
The people who gave these gifts I was very close to for a number of years and have been lifelong friends of my parents, too. They are three couples from the same family, parents, children and spouses. One of the people was a very old friend who became a best friend in the past 5 years but became weird to me after I got engaged so she stopped talking to me.
None of the gifts had gift receipts. The saddest thing was they used to own a card store 20 years ago and so two of the couples gave us old yellowed wedding cards. The funny thing is that a few years ago my friend even told me about the “old card box” that they use if they need last minute cards, or if they have to send a card for people they don’t know that well. I thought it was so rude and a slap in the face. At the very least, could they not honor my friendship enough to spend $3 at Hallmark and get me a new wedding card?
And yes, if you are wondering these people could have afforded to get me new gifts, they can because they are constantly buying new things for themselves, like purses, clothing, jewelery, make-up and home items. They are not hurting for money. But I would like to know why they would all re-gift or give old gifts?
Post # 3
Ew! I can’t believe that! I have never heard of this happening – you would think they would be embarrassed for giving “gifts” like that! I don’t blame you for being upset. I’m sure it will be tough to send a grateful-sounding thank you card!
Post # 4
The funny thing is that I am going to write really great thank-you notes to them saying that i will “treasure” their gifts always and how beautiful and wonderful they are.
Post # 5
Wow, that’s lame. You’re a better person than I. My thank you card wouldn’t be all that nice. It’d probably say something like, “thank you for attending our wedding. We hope you had an enjoyable evening. And thank you for the gift”… Ok, so I guess its not that harsh but I’d hope they got the hint! I have no idea why they would do that, aside from financial reasons. But you said they don’t have any problems in that area so, is there a chance that your family and theirs have had some issues lately? Even still, that shouldn’t effect the gift giving.
Post # 6
No issues among the family, everyone has always gotten along great for years. The only thing is that the daughter stopped talking to me when I became engaged and told me she needed “time to be alone” and never called me again. But if she has issues that shouldn’t matter to the others and their gifts, right?
I was still nice to her after she stopped our friendship and sent a Christmas card. Then she sent me a note closer to the wedding before the invties went out about us not talking anymore and she wished me luck (so she wouldn’t be invited.) I sent her a note back about “why did we stop talking?” and she never replied back. And then I sent her and the others the invites, just a I had been planning. It is all so sad and stupid about the friendship ending but maybe that was the reason for the weird gifts?
Post # 7
Yuck. That does feel like a slap in the face. I mean, I know times are tough right now, but someone can at least buy you a current wedding card for $3.00…
Post # 8
totally lame. I’d thank them and laught it off! atleast its a good story!
Post # 9
That’s awful! That happened to my best friend too– she invited a couple (her parents’ friends), who asked if their adult daughter and husband could come too. The daughter and husband ended up bringing their 9 month old baby! (To a wedding where NO children were invited) As a gift (from all five of them), my friend received an ugly vase with no receipt!!! As the Countess says, money can’t buy class : )