Post # 1
My boyfriend and I just got engaged and we are really excited about being married. I havent had any close friends get married yet so I have a lot of questions about it all. Whenever I ask him any questions he gets really freaked out and thinks im getting cold feet. This is definitly not the case and I always have to reassure him I want to spend the rest of my life with him. How can I deal with my concerns about marriage without scaring him with all my questions?
Post # 3
Just explain to him that while you are very excited to marry him you have some questions and you need him to be understanding and patient with you. Marriage is a big deal and you have every right to have questions! Congrats!
Post # 4
questions about your wedding plans?
Post # 5
@bostongirl27: not so much. More questions about his married friends (since I dont have any). Just general things, like time frames from dating, to engagement, to wedding. Or how long they lived together before they got married.
Post # 6
You can ask the bees your questions 🙂 I’m positive the examples you mentioned are things I’ve see here on the bee.
Post # 7
@Ribeka: I would say take it with ease in regards to all your questions. You will both find out answers to your questions because every couple is different. I am also in your same shoes because I don’t have any married friends but FI does. It’s natural to have questions about marriage since it’s a big step in life but both of you will figure out what’s best for you both in due time. For example, FI’s married friends all lived together before they got married and when FI finally bought up the topic regarding us, I told him my preference which was not to live together. Just keep in mind, each relationship is different and dynamics of it vary from one couple to another so other people’s experiences or choices may work out for you.
Post # 8
In general, men get freaked out about wedding preperations. That’s why I joined this site! I think if I asked my FI one more question he would’ve died! There are so many boards online (especially this one) that will answer anything you need! If you have a specific question about your budget or one of his married friends then of course ask him, otherwise that’s what we’re all here for!
Post # 9
That’s what weddingbee is for! 🙂 To take the pressure off of SO/FI/DH!
Post # 10
@Ribeka: I had the same questions as well when I was engaged. I didn’t want to make the DH felt like I had doubts so I went and asked everyone else (incl. weddingbees) about it. lol